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Why would someone leave a religious cult and rejoin it years later?
One of my friends and her husband joined a religious cult in their 20s. The leaders ran her life, telling her how to dress, how to spend her free time, how to wear her hair and how to have sex with her husband. In her late 30s, about eight years ago, she left it because the pressure and rigidity was too much to handle anymore.
Her husband said she was going to make her kids go to hell. Her in-laws said she was a tool of the devil. The cult members drove by her house slowly at all hours of the day and night. They called her on the phone. They confronted her in public. This went on for years, and we have supported her and her husband the best way we know how.
During the last three years it seemed like everyone had moved on and her life was normal. Two nights ago she called me and told me she and her family had rejoined the cult. I was stunned. I asked her why, and she said it's the only place she's ever felt safe. These people emotionally abused her and her kids for over a decade, and her marriage was nearly destroyed.
Why is she going back? I'm afraid she's become mentally ill.
No, not Mormonism.
Thank you everyone for the great insights.
17 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
When I was in the Army I hated it. It was abusive, demeaning and my entire life was micro-managed. It was so liberating when I reached my termination day. Before long I started to miss it. The security of it was comforting. As a civilian I had to think for myself and it took a little while for me to embrace that. A cult like the one your friend joined would have an even greater psychological impact.
- ?Lv 45 years ago
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- ?Lv 61 decade ago
People who have been in a cult for an extended period of time never learn to function on their own and there is always a danger of them going back. They tend to feel safer and more secure in the cult and in having someone else do their thinking for them. Life is confusing to people if they've never learned to think for themselves. They've grown dependent on the cult leaders and the other members.
Look at prisoners who have been incarcerated for long periods of time, even for non violent crimes like fraud or check kiting. They tend to be unable to make it "on the outside" after they are released. Often they will get themselves arrested again either consciously or unconsciously because they don't know how to function outside of the system.
Even children of abuse (I'm a teacher and counselor) will often crave going back to their abusive homes because it's all they've ever known.
I don't know what type of "cult" you're referring to, but if you have any reason to think that anyone is in physical danger, especially if there is any danger to the children, please report it to the authorities.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Religious cults prey on the lonely and young which makes them more vulnerable to their psychological manipulation. They way they recruit is through friendliness and offering companionship. They bombard new members with attention they likely never received before. And they keep their membership through fear of losing that companionship with the group, or with their idea of God. Cults also deliberately isolate their members from all outside relations such as family and former friends, so they would feel they had no one else to turn to if they ever got the notion to leave the cult.
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- E. F. HuttonLv 71 decade ago
All religion is cult.
1 : formal religious veneration : worship
2 : a system of religious beliefs and ritual; also : its body of adherents
3 : a religion regarded as unorthodox or spurious; also : its body of adherents
4 : a system for the cure of disease based on dogma set forth by its promulgator <health cults>
5 a : great devotion to a person, idea, object, movement, or work (as a film or book); especially : such devotion regarded as a literary or intellectual fad b : the object of such devotion c : a usually small group of people characterized by such devotion
While there is no heaven or hell or god or devil there is evil. "Her husband said she was going to make her kids go to hell. Her in-laws said she was a tool of the devil." Only the evil would suggest such things.
Oh yeah, Stockholm syndrome
- Yak RiderLv 71 decade ago
Take her statement at face value.... "it's the only place she's ever felt safe."
There are many people in this world who are perfectly happy with someone else making the decisions for them. I would propose that many of Obama's most hardcore followers fall into this category. Freedom, true freedom is a scary prospect because of the risk of failure.
- Kenneth JLv 61 decade ago
Sounds like she just didn't like thinking for herself and having control of her life.
Cults pray on the weak and control their lives by telling them what to do and how to live their lives.
No thinking for yourself required on your part like when you were a child and you feel safe like when you were a child and mommy and daddy told you what was best for you and kept you safe from harm.