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accepting help from cousin. Should I or not.?
A cousin has kindly offered to help me find a car, or look at one if I find one myself. In one way I'm really pleased as it's a side of the family I'm not in touch with much so to will be nice to be in contact. However there is one minor snag. I've budgeted enough to buy a car that's about 4 years old, and this is fine on my wage but he is really struggling at the moment. I feel a bit stuck, If i refuse his offer he may feel let down, if i accept we could both feel embarrassed about me spending a lot (not a lot for a car but it probably would be in his eyes).
Any suggestion on how to handle this. I don't mind treating him to a meal or something as a thank you, Just don't want it to become an embarrasing situation for both/either of us.
He has emphysema so can't work at moment sadly, as he's in his 50's i can't see him getting better or backk to work. I don't mind lending him cash, but once again it's how to tackle the subject without either of us getting embarrassed.
3 Answers
- HighlandLv 51 decade agoFavorite Answer
Try very hard to help him find a job. If you can afford, try to lend him some money, even if it is a little. He is your family. I think it is OK to accept his help, but help him a little too.
Edit: Just tell him that you realize that things are tough for him and anybody might need help someday. Tell him that you would love to spend some time with him to have lunch or dinner and offer to give him rides once in a while.
I don't think he will resent you for buying a car. It is your money. But it would be good if you help him a little also. Someone else might help you in the future when you need it.
- 1 decade ago
Go ahead and let him help you pick out a car. I think it will make him feel better about himself. Then take him out for meal. My brother and I did this,He was on a fixed income from being a brittle diabetic.It would have hurt his feelings if I bought a car on my own. Then as a thank you ; if his blood sugar was fine I bought him a meal, Sometimes I took him to wal-mart and let him pick out what he wanted, he would try to refuse, but I wouldn't take no for an answer.
- ?Lv 41 decade ago
I think that would be a nice idea. Let him know you found the car you want, and let him take a look, and either repay him in money, or take him for a spin to a nice little restaurant. It may not be a lot to repay him with, but its enough to say I appreciate you helping me.
