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Fiancee adopting my daughter in Houston,TX?

I am getting married in a few months to my fiancee who is joining the Army. Right now we are expecting a child. I have a 19month old daughter from a previous relationship (not marriage). Her father left us while I was pregnant and completely got out her life when she was about two/three months. I have no idea where he is. Basically, he is like a sperm donor. Anywho, he never got around to signing her birth certificate so it says she has no father. My fiancee wants to adopt her right after we get married. He is the only father she knows and he has been there since she was born. What I want to know is what will the process be of him adopting her, giving her his last name, ect.? Thanks for reading and answering.

Update:

We are trying to become a proper family. We know what we are doing. We know what this decision will do, make us the family we want.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    I suggest you read both http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=200911... and http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=201... before making any further decisions.

    Please bear in mind that the US Passport agency requires that a birth certificate is filed within one year of birth. You may be causing unnecessary headaches for your daughter, and they may be denied a passport (as many adopted people frequently are!) - the rules differ state to state.

    On the subject of history... your partner adopting your kid won't change who her biological father *actually* is. Your kid has still got half of her genetics from their dad, and no piece of paper in the multiverse is strong enough to change that fact, so why bother paying to be able to lie and say that your partner's sperm created your kids, when it didn't?

    Sounds to me like your partner's already her dad, and I don't understand why you feel you need to create the legalised lie about the biological side?

    Also, you absolutely NEED to find him if at all possible because there can be all manner of medical ramifications if you don't - not to mention the fact that if you don't find him, and so your daughter doesn't find out if (he knows) he's got any more kids, she could well end up marrying her own brother (don't dismiss it, it's happened more than once in the past, and was deeply traumatising for some of those involved).

    Source(s): Abandoned early 1973. Reunited late 2009.
  • ?
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

    in case you report and the organic and organic mom is served court docket papers and would not contest, your spouse must be waiting to undertake your daughter. My ex had a newborn with a woman in yet another state. She filed to alter the youngster's call and at last have been given married, having her husband undertake the boy. He replaced into mailed the papers provided that he lived in Florida and he or she in Alabama, yet he in no way opened the envelopes, leaving them interior the mailbox under the thought if he did no longer know approximately it, it would not take place. incorrect end. She replaced into waiting to get each thing pushed via. If the organic and organic mom DOES contest, ask the courts to assign a "father or mom advert litem" to behave interior the main suitable activity of your newborn. This individual will act as an independent voice for the youngster and help the courts be certain what's interior the main suitable activity of the youngster. One final theory: does the youngster's mom pay newborn help? If she's meant to, she would take this as an threat to get out of that provided that as quickly as the youngster is accompanied, she now no longer has any household projects (or rights) to the youngster. If no longer, it truly is beneficial to play that hand as a final effect, ie. "in case you do no longer prefer to permit my spouse to undertake our daughter, then you certainly ought to start ponying up newborn help funds". If she would not exhibit activity interior the youngster now, having to pay newborn help would make her exchange her concepts somewhat swifter, allowing you to place the adoption via. sturdy success!

  • 1 decade ago

    You will probably have to get a Family Lawyer that specializes in adoptions.The family lawyer will have to send paperwork to you exes last known address and possibly workplace. He will have to respond within so many days and if he doesn't than you will be able to go thru with the adoption. Also, you have to be married a year before they will allow him to adopt. Congrats on everything. Much repsect to your fiancee, my biological father left when I was younger and my daddy adopted me. Good Luck!

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