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MY BOYFRIEND SAYS HE IS GAY!!! WHAT AM I TO DO!?
Ok.. so aside from my episodes of drama last year a new unexpected turn has spun my relationship into a never ending story of uncertainty.
Im not sure if this is what i deserve, but 8months ago my boyfriend of 3 years announced one morning that he questions his sexuality. He tole be he had literally woke up one morning to heart palpitations, and he started to notice that he was not so bothered about sex anymore and never noticed other women, when naturally as a man, he always did before. I trust my boyfriend and i believe that he may actually have been confused for a while but didnt know what to do or who to tell.
He woke up and told me this 8months ago, now i occasionally ask him, 'how are you feeling, how is your heart' just because i cant bring myself to ask him out right 'are you gay or not'
He told me he loves me more than ever and wishes he could spend the rest of his life with me and have a family together, but he is not sure if it will ever happen. When i ask him if he is attracted to men, he says NO and that he doesnt think of what it could even be like with one, however he is sure that something sexually in him has changed. He even asked me if i would stay with him if he did one day realise that he is indeed gay...
Now, to say the least im am extremely confused. Some days i go on without even thinking about it and others it is all that occupies my mind. Im am sure i want to be with this man, and sure he can make me happy, but for how long do i go on supporting and waiting for him to decide whether of not he his straight!?
Ho told me that his is worried that if he is gay his family and friends will treat him badly. I know he must be going through a very rough time and is probably frightened about what is happening to him, but i really think he needs to figure it out soon. Hiding the truth will only hurt him, and US a couple.
He still tells me he loves me everyday, that im beautiful and is very affectionate and will do anything for me, but he still cant tell me he is straight for sure. This time, i really do not know what on earth i am supposed to do.
9 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
He sounds like he has known all along that he is either gay or bi, and was until now denying it. I would not recommend bringing another man into the relationship, this will only hurt you in the long run. He needs to grow up and deal with his sexuality and be honest with you. You deserve his honesty at the very least!!!!
- Anonymous5 years ago
It doesnt really make any sense that he got so worked up about it.. I dont see why he cares at all. Some people prefer sons and some prefer daughters, nothing to get worked up about. It doesnt mean anything about being gay. there is more than one type of love... just because he loves his son doesnt mean he loves him in that way. It was a stupid thing to say, but that's all. nothing that should be made a fuss over. I would just let it drop and move on with my life.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
What the hell do you mean by "I'm not sure if this is what I deserve"?
Him coming out is not about hurting you, so stop being so selfish and get over yourself! You need to realise that this is NOT all about you, and is, just this once, all about him.
- AbundanceLv 61 decade ago
Tell him that you want a break and you two can still be friends and see where things turn out from there.
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
seriously . don't even bother. people who question their sexuality could be gay or bisexual and if you don't want to ruin your life then you shouldn't be his boyfriend but remain as a friend and still support him and love him :)
- tylerLv 41 decade ago
Well, he hadn't say that he was gay or not....So you can relax. what I always do....is expect the worst that can happen.....because if something bad DOES happen....then I wouldn't be so much in a state of shock and upset...because I prepared for it........BUT.....if nothing bad happens...and things turn out to be extremely good....then I would get a blasting dose of happiness and total relief........
So....Expect that he may turn gay.....and prepare to move on to other plans......If he turns gay, you'd already be prepared....If he doesn't, you'll be relieved.
- 1 decade ago
You want to know for sure? Surprise him with another man in the bedroom! Your boyfriend will either freak out on you or drop to his knees eager to please!
- Anonymous1 decade ago
i thinnk you need to wait for him to straighten out his feelings (kinda ironic eh?)
