Help I got a question?

I had this same problem, I know how you feel. I had been lied to and cheated on so many times that by the time I found a man who was trustworthy, I had no trust left. I think the only thing that helped me get past it was time. I had to be able to see that he was always there and always true no matter what was going on... it took about a year to be able to really start trusting him. And I have to admit I still have my rare moments but it's gotten a whole lot better than it was. All you can really do is give it time, and recognize his efforts and your progress.

Due to the fact that I have an unquestionable small penis, I used to have this fear that the woman I was with would toss my clothes out into the street and expose my inadequacies. I've learned to accept this about myself and now embrace it with vigor.

Now women toss my clothes into the street because their husband pulled up in the driveway.

ADD: Okay, I feel guilty. You're looking for heartfelt advice and I'm goofing off.

I think everyone will always carry their baggage into the next relationship. As human beings, we have a tendency to WANT trust, but become cold with barriers when that trust is violated. Our barriers are our baggage, and we simply need to find someone willing to sort through the baggage and accept us in spite of our baggage. Some baggage, is good, however, because it involves experience...sometimes you have to take a few trips befire you know what baggage is appropriate for the vacation. Right?

Caution, you can call yourself a profit if you expect the worst all the time, it will eventually happen. People get tired of paying for the mistakes of the ones that came before them. Faith and trust is one of the most difficult things to accomplish. If we expect perfection, we will inevitably be let down. Past baggage in a new relationship is a recipe for disaster. We must come to grips with the past and not make the same mistakes or co-sign the same crap. If you always do what you've always done; you will always get what you have always got. Think about it.

Explain the cause for your insecurity and say that you want to feel secure, but it is hard based on the past. Also, ask yourself what the worst thing could be and recognize that that is very, very unlikely to happen. Do you feel worthy of this person's love? Some insecure people do not.

Insecurity runs deep, so this is far from a complete answer.

One day at a time.

I know it might sound overly simplistic but learning to trust a new partner is something that takes time after past bad relationships.

I had issues with trust in the past due to being hurt and cheated on, but my current partner knew this and helped me through my insecurities. It's not easy though as it still surfaces from time to time. It's a work in progress and only you can change it if is something that you WANT to change.

Good luck.

i have the same problem too..but with the boyfriend i have now i totally trust but always doubt him but i never say anything to him i just keep it to myself i will get over it in time, well i hope i will..so to answer your question i cant because i do the same