How to get over a death in the family?

I'm so sorry for the loss of your Grandpa.

What you're going through is sadly quite normal,you are grieving and it is a very painful process.

It does take time to come to terms with it and if I can suggest that from now on ask yourself would your Grandpa want you to feel like this,what would he be telling you right now if he saw you suffering?

In time things will get a little easier and one day you'll find yourself laughing and remembering all the fun times you had together, I promise the old adage still holds true that time is a great healer, really it is. God Bless.

Deaths in the family are always hard. My mom died when I was 17, and I am 23 now, and I still think about it. I'm sorry to say there is no easy way out, or quick shortcut to getting over these things. Time will run its course and you will hurt, but eventually it'll get easier. I would say do something to set your mind at peace, write him a letter saying all the things you wish you could have told him and put it as a message in a bottle, make a scrapbook of his life, write about how you feel, talk about good memories, focus on the happy thoughts of him, and remember that there is nothing you can do now to change what happened. So reminiscing on things that make you nostalgic will make the process a little easier.

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I'm sorry about your grampa Katie, I know Exactly 100% how you feel, my grandad was my role model, my hero, my father figure you see I've never met my father and my grandad was the only real father figure in my life, everything to do with my life was influenced by him, my footballing ability, my boxing ability, my rule of taking s*** from nobody! Was all orchestrated by him and when I was looking at him dying in that hospital bed every single moment that we had together flashed before my eyes. He passed a year ago and I still cry when I think of him that I'll never see him again, that we'll never ever play football together again until someday hopefully we are reunited. I miss him so much it actually hurts as I write this as it makes me think of him, almost everything I witness in my life reminds me of him, he had a part in everything to do with me, I cannot answer your question Katie as I have the same problem, I just want to let you know that you're not alone x

I feel ya girl... My 20 year old cousin died 3 months ago, and I'm 21 so we were really close. She was the kind of bestfriend you could say anything to and not worry about being judged. Her and I went through a lot of the same things and now that she is gone it is like I lost the person that understood me the most. I feel pain everyday with little things that remind me of her, and I cry more than I should I feel like.

But then I think about what would she want me to be doing. She would hate to see my crying over her, I just know it. So to cope with it I've been doing things that would make her smile, make her happy, make her proud of me. I started a yoga class, I am learning the guitar, and I'm trying to just do whatever I feel like doing at the moment.

Your grandfather was like your dad... and I think it is safe to say that he wouldn't want to watch you in so much pain. You have to try to keep busy, doing things that your grandfather would love to see you do.

I started by making a scarpbook page of my cousin and putting pictures of us and all the things we loved doing together. I put it right above my bed. It is a constant reminder of the happiness I was able to share with her and the happiness I can still find within other people.

Losing a person is never easy. They are irreplacable, but some day you will find contemptment. Sometimes it takes longer for certian people. It is within you... when you are ready to find it, it will come.

And it's okay to cry! Life sucks sometimes!

my pet duck just died and my grandpa died about 7 years ago and I'm crying as I write this its not easy living without someone u love a lot and it hurts trust me I cant even sleep I'm that sad I still talk to my grandpa because I might have said things that I regret severely some time I even wonder what it would be like to die but I am not suicidal I'm young so I want see what the future holds so no matter how hard I fall and no matter how much I know I wont see them for I long time I get back up and as I get older I feel I never want to get older but sadly I have to because well its a part of life and I have to deal with it no matter what I hope u like my opinion thx.

A death in the family is not something you ever really get over, but you can make your feelings better, ever since my grandad died 2 years ago ive found lots of pictures of me and him and i have a couple in frames aroound my room, sometimes ill cry looking at them, but it helps to know hes still around in my pictures, my grandad died of a disease worse than cancer, hes body litterally dietriated and he looked anorexic when he died at 65, but he had his diease for only 8 months, so it gives me reassurence than he didnt have to suffer for long, this might be something to think about, if you grandpa died after an illness it might reassure you that he is in a better place right now, and darling its gonna be hard, really hard for a while but you have to think about the good points oof course its a very sad time in your life but i know there will be better things happen to you. in no way am i saying forget him, im saying that you should embrace the memories of him, with photos and other things you did, like places you went with him, my last memory was in mcdonalds it was just me and him, because he was gettin really weak neither of us could open a bottle of orange juice so i had to take it to the counter to get it opened, then after we both sat in the car and cried but i stil think of happy times with him, because it was just me and him and we had such a lovely time,

if you need to talk to anyone darling im here x

Grieving is always one of the first steps to healing from hurt which was bought on by a death in your family. The next step is getting help. I believe that you could benefit from a few counselling sessions as you are not dealing with this well. Counselors are able to help you sort through all your problems and help to stop you from hurting and being upset. Best of luck Katie x

I know how you feel, I lost my grandma who was very close to me. She died suddenly and I thought my world was over forever, but you have to take it one day at a time. It's been over 7 years and I still remember that morning as if it happened yesterday and I still cry for her and I miss her. There is no pain that compares to losing someone you love that much, but you will make it. The hardest day was my wedding, she was not there and my heart ached because of it, but you have to live your life. Go to school and get a job and get married and have kids and know that you'll be together again one day. It's not easy, but you can do it, I promise.

both my grandparents are dead, my grandmother died one month ago, and my other grandmother is still living but I don't talk to her because he caused so many scandals in my family. my grandmother who died was very closed to us all, and she would have done everything for us. I always have tears when I am thinking to her. he always called me to ask how am I, how were my exams and so on. I don't even remember having a quarrel with her. her death was a shock, especially for my uncle who used to live with her. she died of heart attack. when she died, my father called me (I was is another city, at the university, it was the exams period), I have never heard my father crying before, he said that she died three times but I could hardly understand what he was saying because of his cry. for over a week, I couldn't sleep, because every time I went to bad I was remembering of her,I was only learning for my exams. I was really destroyed. for me, it's still hard to accept it, but I know she won't ever come back. it's so sad!!