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G M
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G M asked in Social SciencePsychology · 1 decade ago

Am I Normal in my philosophy on life?

I have a question regarding my current mind set.

I see individuals striving towards tangible goals. And this question entails “ambition or lack of” and it's normality.

I have no family of my own, no personal need for amassing large sums of wealth, or power. I simply enjoy living for livings sake.

I have dated individuals that have chastised me for my lack of ambition and drive. But I can't wrap my head around their desire to be in my view nothing but a transient success before the inevitability of death.

I much prefer sitting and enjoying the world go by in it's hustle and bustle watching individuals go to and fro scraping fighting and doing everything in their power to gain improvement over their condition with mixed success.

It's not that I fear trying to be successful, I just fail to see the point. I find it an exercise in futility and a distraction to the otherwise wonderful opportunities that never see the light of day because of the severe limitations of self image, personal advancement, and the need of a sense of security.

Obviously I'm asking the question as I feel my feelings aren't normal. I sometimes ponder if it's a lack of maturity on my part for never having started a family. Or if it's something that's simply not hardwired in my cranium due to some potential imbalance.

I'm not a slow witted individual. I simply lack the inherent desire to be successful. And I don’t understand if it's simply something wrong with me or if I might be correct.

Any and all thoughts are welcome, even the negative ones.

Update:

Yes to answer the question I do work. :)

I'm self educated in multiple fields and have committed a large amount of study in all of them. But currently I personally make an adequate living in the computer field as a contractor and consultant. More than enough for my personal needs I.M.O.

I've just personally grown tired of being told I can and should attain more. And am basically baring my soul to ascertain if I'm normal.

Consider this a DE-Fragmentation of my psyche in a nutshell.

Update 2:

Addendum: As to my fulfillment level I can't honestly answer.

Do I regret not starting a family, the answer is a yes and a no.

I do regret never having a family as is part of the human condition, but on the same note. I have personally witnessed the pitfalls of starting one with the wrong individual.

And therefore have no regrets in the regard that I wouldn't want to be the individual responsible for another messed up individual from a potentially dysfunctional scenario.

Again my own personal opinion.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    You are one of those people compared to having a spell or being laid back in everything you do.You have more of a relaxed attitude & I think its normal to be yourself.But there's one thing about aiming to be very successful in life & then later on plunging deeper in the ground level of your being. That's not a good thing because it will lead to depression or negativity.In other words you are just an average individual doing your own thing,not annoying people,watch people go by,minding your own business which is really a good thing .One day,you might be motivated to do something out of your comfort zone,to be successful in something, but at the moment your life is peaceful with 3 basic essentials,food ,clothing & shelter is better than( one of them) is missing in your life!!!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    you sound free like the wind, probably would have loved to lived on an indian reservation..

    well if youre happy with very little, then be happy. i do have to ask, do you work, what do you do, are you happy with it, what would you really like to do. success isnt the same for all. it could be mastering a dozen recipes for a stay at home mom, luckily winning the lottery for a slacker or graduating from harvard for another. success is how you measure it.

    for me success will be when i graduate at my local college and have a 'career' not a job. a career to me is when, if you dont go to work that day, things may not be done right, things cant be completed, because youre that important to your company....

    success is growing old with my husband and raising our kids to the best of our ability..

    how do you measure the success or lack their of, in your life? are you fulfilled or whats missing?

    Source(s): school to be a RN
  • 1 decade ago

    If you are not lazy than u have to get a job and make a life out of it.Making something out of life doesn't mean useless.U have to have goals in your life study,work,marry,children and so forth.Don't reject what you have, make yourself useful to yourself and others.Your power is in your hand if u don't use it wisely u are actually wasting it and u are a fool if u don't take it and make something out of it.Even animals knows this.What are you?something greater than all of us.Don't be a procrastinator in life go jump in and start swim.Don't day dream at the shore looking at the O ring in the sky.

    Make it happen today and start living and helping others.Give yourself a good hard shake and wake up and look at life in a more positve light.Good luck and take care.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Maybe you should get in to politics. That (among other things) will help you understand how f*cked up everyone else is and then you won't care about such banal terms as "normal"

    Trust your own senses; they make more sense than you think (especially if you also use logic)

    Source(s): my butt
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