Help! Neighbor girls are using my brother for our pool?

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He's 8 and has no friends, and these two girls from next door pretend their his friend for the pool. They come over to use it and my brother is incredibly excited to have his "friends" with him. It gets worse. A day ago, the entered our pool without asking first, and I'm no lawyer, but I think that's against the law, "breaking and entering." My mom, being the kind soul she is, lets them. My brother comes home from summer daycare. He sees them and is ecstatic. He quickly joins them. They ignore him and play without him. I see him facing the backyard with his face in his hands. I have no way of knowing whether they're here or not, since my room is at the other side of the house. Please help, this has been happening all summer.

Update:

I did tell my brother he was being used. He doesn't care since they're the closest thing to friends he has.

Update 2:

And thank you all for your answers. :) shame I can only pick one.

? · Accepted Answer

OMG, same thing with me! This girl has been "friends" with my bro ever since i opened my pool. She uses him just to go into our pool, so i know how you feel! And she invites her friends over and everything and they don't even hang out with my brother. So i definatley know they are using him. Now she is asking my brother if she can have her birthday party in here next week, and btw my mom is on vacation until september so yah.. I already told her this girl that i know shes using him and i told her to NEVER come into our pool and they still do so all I have to do is talk to my brother. so maybe you can talk to your brother and he might get sad but if you want them to leave then you should TODAy because summer is about to be over.!

rmm · Answer

I'm not a lawyer either, but I believe all pools should have a lockable gate, and posted signs. - I believe the legal term is "attractive nuisance".  Basically, since other kids parents can't control their own kids your family is  at risk if something happens to the girls because they were attracted to your property that you didn't properly protect.  Your city and/or state probably have laws about pools and them being properly fenced (and perhaps locked).

Locking the gate would make the girls at least ring the door bell and ask if they could go swimming. If they don't have adult supervision then they shouldn't be swimming. (I can only assume the girls are near your brother's age)

Pool alarms exists that if the water is disturbed, the device detects the movement and sounds an alarm. Perhaps with an 8 year old a family should have one of these. See link below for some around $200

Rules should be set up with the girls and their parents as to when, how often, how long, they are invited to swim.

As for them "using" your brother, that is an unfortunate situation that will probably last the rest of his lifetime. It's just how people (especially girls) are.

RoofingPrincess · Answer

1)  It's almost time for back to school and the problem will then go away.
2)  Express your concerns to your mom and then let her handle it.  It's nice of you to be concerned about your brother's emotional welfare but it's really her job to take care of him.

Latesha · Answer

you should tel your mom and if she doesn't listen then ask ur brother if they play with him then make him tell ur mom!

? · Answer

tell your bro that he is being used.

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