Confused about a guy?

So, I am confused. I started dating a guy in April. We had so much in common; it got to the point people would say we were clones of each other. He broke up with me in June. He gave me the following reasons.

1)My lack of self-confidence: Which is very true. He even now often tells me to get more self-confidence and how sexy it is. He said this was one of the major reasons because as he put it “Its hard to love someone when they don’t love themselves”

2)Similarities: He said that because we are so similar it was odd in the sense that he could see that lack of self-confidence in me and it reminded him of how he used to be and he was afraid it would drag him down to where he was.

3)He admitted that when we started dating he found me basically unattractive. I had a make over. New clothes, new hairstyle, lost almost 50 pounds since about February. He said it helped but it was still awkward for him when he kissed me and stuff but it got a bit better over time.

4)His own immaturity. He openly admits he is too immature at this time to be in a committed relationship. He realized he wasn’t ready for it. And even though we are close to the same age (I’m 21 he’s 20), I am way more mature than he is and he needs to work on that.

When he broke up with me, he said he wanted to stay friends with me and there was a chance we would get back together at some point in the future. A few hours after the break up, he checked in on me and did that for the next few weeks, but never in person just through messenger or txt message. I finally told him I need some time away because my feelings were still strong and he said ok. Well less than a day later he is txting me again. We got together to go to Pride in late June and he had asked me to go when we were dating and still wanted me to. Well on the way home he knew something was bugging me (He can read me like a book) he asked me what was wrong and I admitted to him that since my Grandma’s death in February (She was more or less my mother) I have been suicidal. He immediately and to this day has tried everything he could to get me help. He keeps telling me how much I mean to him and it would kill him if I ever did killed myself and all that. So he has been VERY active in helping me beat the depression.

A few weeks ago I had been feeling better but it was still awkward to be around him because I still have feelings for him I said again I needed a bit of a break and I would like to try to make them less.. He said ok. Two days later he im’s me saying that hey, I’m bored and I really miss talking to you. The next day he asked if I was willing to consider a certain school for Law school so we could get an apartment together. He did bring up the fact that he felt it could be awkward once we started bringing other guys home. This was a kick in the stomach to me and I told him and he apologized. When I canceled my therapy appointment last week, he was upset and threatened to have me committed because he was scared for my safety (something he has said he would do many times). On Friday, we were going to Chicago when I got the news my Grandpa (basically my dad) fell and broke his hip. He went with me to the hospital and my family told us to go ahead and go back up. We did and the first night was a disaster, he was pulled over for speeding and stuff. So we get back to the hotel room and he asked me for a back massage, which I gave. And he said even though the day sucked he would rather have a sucky with me than without me. The next day on the way home he told me that I was one of the only people who is always there for him and he hates being lonely in his new apartment and he wished I could move in for a while. I spent the last few nights with him at his insistence. I went somewhere yesterday to do some stuff and he called me he would like me to come back to be there with him when he called his mom to tell her about the ticket. And we clicked perfectly. The thing is, Idk if he still has feelings for me or not. He’s always so pro-active in helping me and was serious when he said he wished I could move in and all that. But he’s admitted he has been taking to other guys but he hasn’t been interested in any. So my friends have had some theories about his actions.

1)He still likes me but is afraid of commitment so he broke up with me. So now he wants to basically date but no intimate relations. Many people who see us in public and assumed we are dating again because how often we are together. Going shopping together, going out to eat together etc…and he has said a few times even after the time he broke up with me he would be interested in getting back together with me.

2)He is just playing me

3)He feels guilty for not realizing how depressed I was about grandma’s death and doesn’t want his breaking up with me to have been the final nail in my coffin and one of the causes of my suicide.

4)He likes me, isn’t afraid of commitment but just realized that he couldn’t date s