Married to a man... thinking about another woman?

he needs to be tested for low testosterone---could explain why he has lost his interest--it might be there but if testosterone is too low he will not have the same "fire" he had to making love to you...if he is not interested and you are, there will be a conflict where one will be pushed to act--even if you WILL NOT STEP AWAY FROM YOUR vows, it can happen (you long for a human touch not just sex but a real person--your husband to give you what you need...you miss those old feelings bz you are not being given the love you deserve.

he is uptight...so help him...tell him WHAT YOU REALLY WANT from him; he does not read minds so guide him to where you want to go---in a sexual sense of the word--don't share your past but use what you what you know and show him how fun it can be to explore each other; your body is a wonderland and he needs to ride it :) convince him to try new things with you (but he is uptight)---be inventive with him and if he does not want to play with you, you best seek a marriage counselor...there could be other issues that go beyond the bedroom...try to fall in love once more--like the first time he took you, the first time you two gave to each other, like when you two knew one was right for the other...

Sure, you know why you are asking this question. You're not getting enough and you want more.

Try and find out what's up with hubby. That doesn't sound normal to me and I realize that you aren't telling all of the story; that would take a book and we just don't have that time or resources. Consider professional assistance for yourself or both of you.

I wish you luck but the urge to jump into bed with someone else is a symptom and won't be a cure for what ails you.

Well, if you're not willing to cheat (good for you, by the way), your only other options are either leaving him or negotiating an open relationship, either of which are going to involve talking to your husband, which you've also ruled out. You've painted yourself into a corner, so you either need to work up the courage to do something you don't want to do, or continue to be unsatisfied.

You are confused. And that situation is not a good one to be in for your husband and you. I would say I feel sorry for your husband but I'm sure he had to know this before marrying you and got himself into that situation. I think you should at least tell him before you do anything of that nature or warn him about it and then leave it to him on what he is going to do next at least it gives him the option to decide to leave or stay. That is just wrong that you are thinking about cheating on your husband and with a woman at that. Why get married if your are not going to stay loyal to the vows.

I'm a bisexual man who has been married to a woman for 24 years, and in all that time, I have never cheated on her with a man.

We all get cravings for sex with others sometimes, and the fact that you're craving a woman does not make you in any way special. Remember your wedding vows, and make the best of what you have.

Im also Bi sexual and I could never be with a man who didn't understand that sometimes you just have to be with a girl, either with or without him.

Somehow you have to make him understand without him being threatened by it.

I know what the urge is like and its hard to shut out lol !! Good luck

You may be experiencing what is now known as 'sexual fluidity'. Women sometimes experience this starting in their mid-thirties where their sexual orientation changes. It's not really understood yet.

It's possible that's what is happening to you. You may want to do some research.

you are bored and want something to fill the 'hole' (pun definitely intended ha!) that your husband isn't. i totally get missing a woman's touch. they are so passionate and awesome, but i suggest you just have some alone time with mr. vibe for now... try asking him why he's uncomfortable with you having a semi bi/lezzi past

If your husband is not open to it then put the thoughts away. Try not two dwell on your forbidden sexual cravings. Keep working on your marriage.

You need to set him free and be with another woman. Most men for some reason don't get as pissed if they are set free because their wife wants a woman instead.