Do you let others discipline your child?

You're not wrong for this at all. Would your friend change her mind if you two were married? My step father has been in my life since I was 7. I listened to him when my mom wasn't around because he was in charge of me. Would your friend like it if she was watching your child while you were away and your child hurt one of her children? She would not. So she would like to punish your child right? What gives her more right over your children than your boyfriend? I think it's perfectly acceptable that he did this. It was just a time out.

I think that your boyfriend has every right to discipline your child. I believe that if my child is doing something wrong any trusted adult in the vicinity (in my absence) has the right to punish them. By "trusted adult" I mean a friend, neighbor, family member who knows my parenting style and will punish them the same way I would. If he got up and started spanking your child when you do not believe in spanking - then that would be another story. I want my children to grow up respecting all adults and that means teachers, family members, and friends. I want my children to know that they cannot get away with unacceptable behavior in my absence.

If I'm not there then sure, if they have it coming. I left someone in charge and the power to discipline comes with that. Someone else's rein over my children includes cancelation of a privilege or activity, and the like.

In most cases I would say if the parent is physically present at the event, and the two are not married, it should've been passed to parent.

However, as I'm rereading this (I'm editing my answer) you two have been together for a long time and appear to be a family. I think that's perfectly fine.

My daughter goes to school in the mornings and the rest of the day stays home with her little brother and their nanny, so she has to be "disciplined" by other people (school/nanny). Her school doesn't do time outs nor I let her nanny enforce them in our house. They have never worked, what works in my house is privileges taken away. Anyways, If I was you, yes, I'd definitely let my partner discipline her, the ways are just up to the family, whatever works for each.

No he IS allowed to tell them off as he is like a father to them and may as well be, so they should treat him like their dad he should treat them like his children and therefore when they misbehave and your not around to tell them off, only he is, then he has to tell them off, or they will deliberately misbehave when your not there so they get away with it, anyone is allowed to discipline your children as long as your ok with it, they're YOUR children after all and your friend has no right to question you about letting him punish them, as they are NOT her children.

If i was in that situation and my boyfriend has been in the children's lives more than their real dad, then my boyfriend would automatically take the roll as dad, and i would allow him to discipline them.

So, unless you are not happy with him punishing them, let him.

Hope this helps :)

I'd never let someone I didn't know well do it, but I have friends I've known for years and years and if they were watching my kid, I'd be fine with it if they had to punish her if she misbehaved. I would be pissed off if they were really unfair about it or they hit her or something but a time out isn't a big deal, if she deserved it.

Yes my partner disciplines my son. I wouldn't allow smacking, but thats because i dont smack him myself. Time out-yes, grounded-yes, no tv-yes, early to bed-yes.

Infact i'd allow most adults to discipline my son if i was not present, as long as they didnt take it too far.

I don't believe in smacking, degrading, shouting (in an intimidating way) or any form of bullying. But yes they can correct any bad behaviour and can they make them sit down if they are not playing nicely with the other kids.

im not a parent but i do belive its right for your boyfriend to punish your daughter. you child has to learn to respect others and if your boyfriend doesnt disipline your daughter now then when you leave them 2 alone she wont listen to him .

it will aslo help in the future to respect her elders and other children around her when she gets older.

You're not wrong AT ALL - your boyfriend, for all intents & purposes, IS their father figure - he had to take a stand when he saw it and your daughters respect him for that. Your friend was wrong to question that - it was really none of her business.

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