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Interesting this one: A friend came for advice. He was approached by a girl (27) who needs a visa to stay in the country, and she asked him to marry her to get it. He says he was going to say no as he hadn't met her before, but was so attracted to her he said he'd think about it instead. Thing is, they met for two hours yesterday to discuss this plan and I really think he's falling for her (she is quite attractive!). He showed me her Facebook profile and she seems honest and straightforward and says she is open to a proper relationship with him, that's why she says she approached him (she said he has a kind face and is quite handsome, and is her type). He's 48, single and I think is feeling life has passed him by a bit, then this lovely girl makes him an offer he can't refuse! I've told him he's being a romantic old fool and he'll only end up getting his heart broken...and yet...maybe it could work? Am I being too cynical? What do you guys think?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

What I like to do when making a choice...is to consider all the possible consequences that choice will create. This works best if one really uses their imagination (anything is possible lol) and if all those possibilities are worth the risks then I would say.. do it.

? · Answer

Your friend is a fool - once married, she'll 
   1) Stay in the country
   2) Divorce and take "her" half in the settlement

This is how Con people operate - they "appear" nice and normal.  If she "seemed" sketchy, wouldn't be much of a con now, would it.

And really, how honest can she be - she's proposed marriage to a stranger to avoid VISA requirements.  If it smells like a duck, quacks like a duck and walks like a duck . . . it ain't a swan.

Lynn V · Answer

You refer to this twit as 'honest and straightforward', but she wants a man who will lie to the government along with her. Huh? Of course she's saying she would be open (notice she didn't come right out and say that she wants him) to a relationship - she wants to live here, and is willing to commit fraud and a felony to get what she wants. She is manipulative and a liar - not honest or straightforward. Your friend is hoping that someone out there will find him attractive, but it's not him she finds compelling - it's the citizenship that comes with. Doesn't he deserve someone that actually wants Him? If he marries her he could get stuck with alimony and child support after she finds the real Mr. Right. And she will move on, because her goal would be accomplished - the goal of living here.

Brian · Answer

She wants to marry him just to get into the country, that's it.. she will act as if she is falling for him just to get a Visa. I wouldn't fall for it. What would happen if he married her, she ran away, and then he came across another girl he was legitimately interested in? He'd be married and sh-- out of luck. Pass her up!

? · Answer

I think I agree with you.  It's not cynical, you are being realistic.  27 and he's 48...eh...no.
And con men/women are usually very nice looking and agreeable. That's what makes them so good.

wayfaroutthere · Answer

If she's honest, it could work, but I think you gave good advice.  Since it sounds like he isn't listening to your warning, get his head in another place.  Tell him to go for it but to start thinking about what he wants to have in the pre-nup.  (He probably thinks she's worth the gamble to his heart, make him think about the money.)

Agnostic Front · Answer

DO NOT do it. He can pay to meet her if he REALLY wants to and if it works it works but, i doubt it will. She wants citizenship, and will probably do many things to get it.

? · Answer

It isn`t tying himself to one woman that a man dreads when he thinks of marrying; it`s separating himself from all the others. 
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