Could you offer some advice please?

I think that your daydreams and fantasies are very healthy. If you want to be any good at anything you must eat drink and sleep your goal. Your dreams are your visualistion of being the 'perfect' martial artist. This is the goal of all martial artists - not to beat people up but to seek personal 'perfection' - to polish the rough stone and create a perfect jewel. You may find learning and execute the perfect 'Kata' much more rewarding than fantasising about would be battles.

AS for your mind - 'let the eyes see what they want to see, let the mind think what it wants to think' Tao saying

If you really enjoy martial arts I recommend you read - 'Musashi' by Eiji Yoshikawa

Thet will give you a few years of good daydreams

Most people have fantasies that involve violence, however I think they usual stem from the feeling that we need to be able to protect ourselves and our loved ones. The dangerous violent fantasies are the ones where you initiate the harm on other people without provocation.

You've taken the necessary step to remain non-violent already. You have questioned that fantasy's implication in reality. You know it's place. You've answered your own question already.

PS. On a less serious note, I absolutely love the gang of thugs thing. Only in comic books and movies. Because if I was going to confront a dude and rob him, I would want to split the proceeds with 7 other guys!

Yes. Violence fantasies are a result of repressed anger. Anger is like beard growth. It slowly accumulates all the time in normal daily life. Expression of anger is like shaving. We all must express anger periodically, like shaving, or else it builds up and becomes unmanageable.

People don't realize that it is perfectly healthy and acceptible to express anger. Anger is not a dirty thing. Many people are poor at it though and equate it with being mean. It is not that, though it can be used for that. Properly handled, it is "venting", in which the other person is not ruffled, not threatened, maybe even sympathetic to you, even if your anger is at them. Afterwards, no one's feelings are hurt, communication is restored if it had been blocked by this, and the person venting feels hugely better.

Properly done, expression of anger or fury is just one more intimate expression of passion and it won't scare the child in the high chair, worry the older children, or make the dog lift its head off its paws.

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A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.

After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.

Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.

I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.

I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.

If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.

I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.

Love and blessings

Your brother

Don

Martial arts is yer another art..It is rendered to exhibhit self displine . (art of self defence-is fake because you are not aware abt the oponets weapon( may be gun) or motive)

You may not be harmful to society if you really know that violence will not fetch anything. You better practice for the healthy warmups / excercise. Rest society will take care .good day.

- You cannot effectively think of two things at once. Use that human property to your advantage. Why do you think everything from Tea ceremonies to the Kata were devised - to control your focus and disallow distractions. Get a hobby.

Just watch the fantasies... they are only your enemy as long as you consider them your enemy! Like in the outside world, the mental world is the same. If you just don't contest them, then you cannot "lose". Observe the thoughts impartially, don't object to them or get caught up in them either. If you resist, they will continue to persist! Just let them run their course and then let them go.

I suggest you change your sensi. And I suspect that these thoughts come from too many films of which you have many in the lounge. Learning Mushin would be a great help.

It is the yin and yang of your ego. On one side it is the desire to exploit the achievement you have accomplished while on the other side it is the desire to be at peace with self gratification of growth. The technique to solve this is simple. "Make" the choice.