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Audrina
Audrina asked in Family & RelationshipsMarriage & Divorce · 1 decade ago

I need custody advice?

I want to leave my husband. We have a two year old daughter and another one on the way.

He is violent, an alcoholic, does cocaine, drives drunk, stays out all night with out an explanation, among other things.

I would never let my daughter be alone with him or anyone in his family, as they all have the same behaviors.

I can't really prove anything, he doesn't have a record or anything.

But I know it is in my daughters best interest for him to not be in her life.

I want to get full custody allowing him no visitation privileges of any kind. I know this is hard to do since courts try to have both parents in the child's life.

Does anyone have any advice?

Has anyone been through this that can help me out at all?

Please, all answers are appreciated.

Update:

I tried to get pregnant both times. I was on birth control but went off to get pregnant with my first. He was nice and great at first until I was a couple of months pregnant. I wanted to have another baby for myself and my daughter to have a sibling. I have no problem supporting them. I just want to know ho to get sole custody and never let him see them.

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  • Barb Outhere
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago
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    Ask the courts that mandatory drug testing - hair and urine - be part of the conditions for visitation rights, and if he fails (and from what you say he will) all bets are off.

  • hamnet
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    Wizard and Nana gave right recommendation. States don't overturn different states' orders however honor them in well religion. Child help orders customarily furnish visitation rights. She must ask for a amendment of the order if the custodial mum or dad (dad) isn't enabling the non custodial mum or dad (mom) to visitation rights. Also, she must assess whether or not Kindergarten is essential in Michigan. And don't idiot your self, a person in any state has simply as so much correct to acquire complete custody of his little one even though the mummy isn't on medicines. It is discriminatory to mechanically anticipate that the mummy is the higher mum or dad. Most states deliver joint custody with one mum or dad being the custodial mum or dad.

  • no1advice
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    A violent alcoholic who does coke has been this way for years. Why in the heck did you have even ONE child with him? Why didn't you put yourself on birth control?? Or for that matter why marry such a loser of a man? No I have not been through this because I put myself on birth control in my 20's. and was single not living with some loser. So you now have two kids to support because this guy will not pay any support his money will go for drugs and booze.

    Get full custody show proof of his actions so this man gets no contact what so ever with the kids.

    Then get on some birth control and hopefully you have some family to help you get back on your feet. Try and get a family member to help in the babysitting so you can work and get out from under living with a man.

    Good luck!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Hire a good lawyer. Ask for sole custody, giving him limited visitation (5-6 hours) once every two weeks and supervised by someone who is not his friend or relative. Make sure it is day time visitation. Try to start it early, such as 8AM. He'll probably be too tweeked out or hung over to see them,

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