Do you think your kids 'owe' you?

Family isn't about owing anyone, it's about taking care of people because you're inspired by LOVE not compelled by obligation.

My husband drives his mother to dialysis twice a week. His brother has moved her into their guest room. Neither of them owe her, they just love her.

My husband's sister, on the other hand, can't be bothered. She doesn't owe their mother either, but the fact that she doesn't lift a finger to help shows her to be selfish and egocentric.

I would never expect my child to owe me or pay me back for raising them from birth, the child doesn't asked to be born and it's not like you shake hands with them on the day they are born and make some kind of buisness deal with them. Once you become a grown up you then need to be able to stand on your own 2 feet and not bludge off your kids, in saying that I do believe that family should stick together and help each other out when needed but you have to be able to draw a line too.

Kids don't 'owe' their parents...I don't remember 'asking' my parents to give birth to me. As for the looking after, that's their responsibilty as a parent to give that care a child/minor needs! If they weren't up to the job they could always give the child up to the government, but then what kind of parent are they to that child?

If the parents treat the kids right, make them respectful adults etc, then im pretty sure the kids would help their parents late in life.

-Mysterious-

They don't owe you. Personally, I have one child and am unable to have anymore. I hope we will have a very close relationship when she grows up and that she makes her way in the world independently and successfully. She will always have my love and support but no obligation to me. Parents sacrifice a lot for their kids and consequently some parents feel that their child owes them for giving them a good home, education etc but that's the parents choice, kids don't ask to be born and parents who think their child owes them for that are delusional. You teach your kids a better life lesson by not expecting anything in return from them.

Kids don't "owe" their parents anything. It is the way of human life that we take care of our offspring. Unless you were in some country where most children are given away after childbirth or something, and the parents decided to keep you, even though it would disbenefit them. Then that child would owe alot to their parents. But in America, Australia, Euorpe, etc, we don't ever just throw our children away unless we really think it will benefit THEM, so in today's civil society I believe the kids owe there parents nothing.

mine only 'owed' me UNTIL she was 18. after that it is up to her..

and the owed part was respect,, for the simple fact I am her mother.. she does not have to like or want to even be in the same room with me, until she was 18 she had to put up with me and keep her mouth shut.. when she turned 18 she could move out and never come around me if she choose.

I respected her for the simple fact that she was my child (and I loved her) she owed me nothing but that,

Im 17 years old, and Yes i think i 'owe' my parents. They've taken care of me my whole life, driven me places when i need to go somewhere, bought me 17 years worth of clothes and food, let alone giving me somewhere to live. They would do anything for me.

I often think that if i ever make it big that i will pay my parents back with a large amount of money, or at least a new car or something, but maybe i just think that way because our family is not 'rich' in money, i suppose that if you grow up in a poorer family that you start to think more like that.

Note: i don't think that my parents think i 'owe' them, but i certainly think that i do. And to answer your question, i would have to say at least $50,000. Depends how well your parents look after you.

Hope this helped.

Thats just my opinion though.

-Jai

yes, children owe their parents, and the most important reason is that they've given them their life, and that's not something that anyone can ever give it back, so children should try their best to respect their parents and they should help their parents as much as they can.

your kids don't owe you a thing. they didn't ask you to take on the responsibility of having them. people who think their kids owe them really piss me off. if you take money from your kids, or try to live with them when they are grown, you are a LOSER! take some responsibility for your life. you are, and will forever be, the parent. you NEVER take from your kids.

My children don't owe me anything, They owe it to their selfs to become the best they can.