What is your take on how this husband and father treats his kids?

This woman needs counseling, by herself. It’s too soon to try dragging her moron husband to a counselor.

Actions reflect feelings, and the husband obviously has no feelings for his seven-year-old son or his infant daughter. No amount of counseling is going to change that. A man who ignores his seven-year-old son, with whom he should be going fishing and playing baseball, and allows his infant daughter to lie in a dirty diaper until her mother comes home is hopeless.

This couple is headed for a divorce, and the sooner the better. The eldest boy is going to have a hard time adjusting to life and the infant will grow up with a similar sense of neglect. The three-year-old daughter may well grow up expecting to be the center of attention, and that will cause her serious problems down the road.

It surprises me that a woman you just met would reveal such intimate details of her life to you, so maybe she has problems of her own. She didn’t mention it, but my guess is that her husband is abusive to her.

I wish this woman well and hope she will do something, and soon, because the kind of damage he is inflicting on his children is cumulative. And, IMO, no amount of counseling is going to change what he feels or what he is.

His behavior is very distressing to say the least. Are all three of the children his? Do they attend a church (if they did, most churches have very good family counseling available)? Is the husband/father abusive in any way to the wife or the children, aside from his obvious neglect of the seven year old and the infant? Regardless, they need to get into family counseling. The issues that this man has clearly need to be addressed before he does further damage to the seven year old and the infant. Even if he's a stepfather, he's being quite selfish by his actions and there's already been some damage done to the seven year old. That child's feelings of abandonment will cause a whole array of emotional issues as a teenager and then an adult. I fear for this family. The mother cannot handle this on her own. Professional assistance is warranted. It would be too easy to say she needs to leave. Every situation needs to be dealt with on an individual basis to determine if the parties involved are open to discussing the apparent issues and possible solutions. If the husband/father is unwilling to commit to such a thing, then she needs to separate herself and the children from him until he concedes to do so. Easier said than done, but if she's at the end of her rope with the situation, she'll do what it takes. Sometimes, separation can make a spouse wake up. If he doesn't, she and the children are better off.

If she were a friend of mine, I'd find out of she's even discussed this with him in a calm, non accusatory way and share her feelings to him. If that didn't work, She could suggest parenting classes and family therapy...if that didn't work....... I'd have her do the math, talk to a lawyer and detail for him how much he will be paying in child support when she leaves him. Sometimes that's enough of a motivator. If all else fails, she needs to leave him.

My sympathies are with the children more than her to be honest,she is an adult and could get out of this situation if she wanted to but her 7 year old has no choice in the matter and neither does the baby.

By the time she chose to have a 3rd child with him she had seen for years how he was with the eldest but she chose to carry on and is as responsible as he is for her children's happiness and if that means leaving him so be it.

He sounds like a real jerk .

From what you have said his family would be better off without him.

His wife needs to worry about the affects his behavior is having on her family.

Then take action to correct the matter for what's best for the whole family.

Any boy can make a baby But only a real man can raise one.

Maybe she'll think next time before having anymore kids with him.

He is being mentally abusive towards the other two kids. Maybe the seven-year-old is by somebody else, IDK. It's not enough information. YOu would have to know how long this has been going on, and what triggered the husband to become this way towards his kids. Ask Dr Phil. IDK?