Problems with Fiances Mother?

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My fiance and I have been together for 4 years, and my relationship with his mother has always been tense, no matter what I try and do to make it better. The biggest thing that has been bothering me is that she still has a picture up of my fiance and his ex-girlfriend. I have been bugging my fiance to get it taken down for over 3 years, but him and his family will not budge. It wouldn't bother me so much, but they don't even have a picture of me and my fiance up! If people came over, they wouldn't know who I was, because there is only a picture of my fiance and his ex-girlfriend, not me! Its hurting me a lot and it seems he doesn't care. He promises it will come down, and then he backs out every time and says he forgot or some sort of excuse. Am I over-reacting?

hvn_fun2 · Accepted Answer

I do not think you are over-reacting. The picture is of an EX-girlriend, If the photo is in his parents home, there isn't much either you or he can do to  make them take it down. 
When YOU and your husband HAVE your own home, you can put up your own Wedding pitcurtes. 

It might be a long, hard battle, to be accepted by his parents. Do you love him enough?

Do YOU think that your love together can overcome that photo? If so, I say Fight for your man, but if he's a wimp, about his ex and family.....wait....until you know for sure.

I'm sending you best wishes.

yumiebears · Answer

It will never end. If you love him enough deal with it and ignore the family. 
If you have your own place or when you get your own place put pictures of him, you and your family only. Then invited her over for dinner, maybe she will quietly realize and change the picture in her house and you wouldn't have to say anything else.
Good Luck

Serene E · Answer

Uh...and you're going to marry into this family?   Run!!!  Run far and fast, girl!!!

THAT PIC WILL NEVER BE TAKEN DOWN UNLESS YOU DO IT!!!!!   Get some balls and stand up and take it down!!!!   Everyone will be shocked - LET THEM BE!!!   Screw the old gf, screw the mil, AND SCREW YOUR WIMP OF A BF!!!!!!   If the sh** hits the fan over taking down the picture, then he's not right for you anyway.

ziggy · Answer

not over reacting at all.  Bring it up to your fiance in front of his parents. If he can't stand up for you on this small but important matter, think how other issues that are much bigger will go. You might reconsider your fiance status with him.

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like he needs a taste of his own medicine. I would dig up a picture of me and my ex, frame it, and let the family come over for dinner. Explain it is an old friend and that you dated for a while, but just friends now. It should feel just as uncomfortable for them as it does for you.

Jessica · Answer

lol i have a love/ hate relationship with my mother and law. she loves to hate me and i love to hate her. but she has at least taken my fiancées ex gf pictures down. although she has put none of me up which i am fine with.

? · Answer

Yes you're over reacting for thing is not importance, you don't want to become a ******, pick and choose the battle to fight if you want to married him.  You don't have to love or like his mother, being polite is that's all you have to do.

? · Answer

I remember my brother freaking out because I wouldn't throw away the homecoming mum his ex had made for me when I was younger. It was when he was getting married, and me keeping it really offended him. It was my mum though and I loved it. I love my sis in law more or course, but I didn't see why it mattered.

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