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Is Mamma a good nickname for a grandmother?

My boyfriend and I just recently found out that we're pregnant the WEEK before we went on vacation with his family. When we told his parent's, before the vacation, it was a shock to them (as it was for us too) and they didn't seem very happy about it (we're not married so it's a sin and all...you know). While on vacation they both seemed to "warm up" to the whole situation. His mother, whom, let me explain her personality, she's a spot light HOG. She has to be the center of attention and if she's not she just gets louder until she is. She chooses favorites between her nieces and nephew's and even between her own children! Now my boyfriend's brother and his wife found out they were pregnant 2 months before we did, so that's just been a whole other story. Getting back to his mother, she announced while on vacation that she would like her grandchildren to call her MOMMA. I find this completely offensive because it's so close to Mommy and some kids even call their mothers Momma when they're little. I know it seems simple but it bothers me so badly but I don't know how to handle the situation. I just think it's a little strange to want your GRANDchildren to call you Momma...especially since she's such an attention hog. I just don't want her thinking that she can step in and take over my position as the mother.

Does this sound weird to anyone else? Am I making a big deal out of nothing? What would you do in this situation?

Update:

Actually I did bring it up to my boyfriend, sorta. I just said "So your mom wants to be called Momma?" He said "Yea, that's what we called her mom growing up." I told him that I thought it was weird but he didn't say anything after that. I've already told him that she will not be stopping by unannounced anymore once the baby arrives because she does that ALL THE TIME (but I also said the same about my mom too). So I really don't want him to think that I'm ganging up on her. UGH, she bothers me so much! LOL! Thanks everyone, there's been a lot of really good answers!

Update 2:

I really like the suggestions of "the stupid old lady we have to see once in a while" (however she lives RIGHT down the street from us so it'll be more than just once in a while- sadly) and "Olla"- for old lady

Although, I think I just came up with one myself :) "Crayola"- for crazy old lady! HA!

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Tell her she can choose between "grandma", "granny", or "that stupid old lady that we have to see once in a while".

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    That does sound weird. I would call her out, personally. She's the grandmother, her babyraising days are over.

    Maybe like some others have said, like Big Mama, or even the greek Ya-Ya. In some cartoon show, I've heard the father's mother being called Suga Momma.

    I have a friend who calls her grandparents daddad and mumum.

    But, in answer to your question: no, mamma is not a good name for the grandmother.

    Here's a page of alternatives for grandparents. There are so many!

    http://www.namenerds.com/uucn/granny.html

    I'm also having a hard time trying to differeniate my fiance's parents with my mum. I only ever had one set of grandparents growing up, so it wasn't hard for me. So far, I've got Nanny and Poppy for his parents, and Nanny Sue for Nanny's mother. For my mother, she doesn't want the 'usual', so this site has helped me to!

    I personally like Oma, which is German, but also because its shortened for Old Ma (she's been called Ma by many of my friends for years). Wow, this was an answer for me to!

  • Charm
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    When I was pregnant, my mother told people she dreaded the "G" word more than the "C" word, the C word being cancer.

    I didn't get pregnant at 16, she was in her 50s, and it was not at all inappropriate for her to be a grandmother. But she didn't want to be one. All through my childhood, I remember hearing people tell her that she looked to young to be a mother to a child of my age, whatever my age happened to be at the time. I think she really liked hearing that more than I realized.

    Your bfs mom might not like the idea of a child calling her "grandma" in public. Tough beans. You can ask her to come up with an appropriate alternative, but momma should be off the table.

  • 1 decade ago

    To me- Momma IS Mommy, same thing. There is absolutely no way I would let my son call his Grandma Momma (That's MY name...lol). Maybe MaMaw, but not Momma. Wouldn't happen. Period.

    Give her some other name choices... Nana, MiMi, Nanny, Grandma, Gramma, Granny, MoMo... There are infinite names for Grandparents... Momma isn't one of them.

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  • 1 decade ago

    I don't like momma for grandmother. My kids call me momma.

    Personally, I called my moms mother mommom, and my dads mom mamaw. Moms mom was called mom mom, I'm sure you can see why....

    My dads mom was also called nanna. And, my mother in law is Nana. (Nonna)

    I would just Nana or something, it's not so "old" like to me, and momma is too far fetched for grandma.

    Tell her you do not want her called momma. Talk to your boyfriend about it first, maybe he can also tell her so.

    It sounds extremely weird to me, and I don't know if she'd try to out-beat you, but honestly that's what it sounds like to me.

    I wish you luck.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

    Why make this greater complicated than it needs to be. Why that baby would not be calling its very own mom "mom", i don't get, yet you suggested it on your question. "My daughter is pregnant with my first grandchild." That makes you "grandmother", i don't care how outdated you're. you do not might desire to act like what you think of a grandmother acts like, yet you will not be able to alter the fact.

  • 4Red
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    My kids call me momma. Wouldn't be right for a grandma.

    However, Big Momma/Mama is quite common for grandmas.

  • 1 decade ago

    I agree. Momma is exactly what it sounds like....a name for the mother of the child. Lucky for you, you will be with your child most of the time and can direct them to call her Grandma.

    My parents didn't want any specific name. They let my daughter call them whatever she came up with.....she calls them Papa and Memaw. : ) My stepmom however, picked a "name"...Yaya.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    My children call my mom Olla

    it stands for Old Lady (Ol from old and La from lady)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    What about something like Nana? My niece and nephew stick with that to my mother. I think you have a right to be offended. She shouldn't think that is okay. It's very attention hoggish. I'd tell her it's not happening.

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