She wants to check my cell phone?

Dump her.

Now.

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Depends on four things.

1) The circumstances surrounding the dinner with the old flame. Ask yourself honestly, did you not mention it (at least ahead of time) because it honestly wasn't a big deal and you just didn't think to mention it? Or did you intentionally keep it a secret? If you intentionally kept it secret, I think it's appropriate for you to go beyond what might normally be expected to reassure your girlfriend. You might consider letting her check your cell phone *this one time* to reassure her.

2) Is your girlfriend's suspicious reaction common or is it just because in this one case it appears to her that you're seeing an old girlfriend behind her back? If the former and you're not willing to deal with suspicion and jealousy as a normal part of your relationship, I think this is a good opportunity for a heart-to-heart talk. Acknowledge that you can understand why she might feel suspicious in this case, agree to be better about sharing plans for getting together with friends and make it clear that you deserve (hence expect) a level of trust that you feel you aren't getting in this case.

3) Do you want a girlfriend or a mommy? If you want a mommy, I think it's perfectly fair game for her routinely to check your phone, email and internet usage. If you want a girlfriend, this level of checking up on you (or you checking up on her) is outside of the boundaries with which I would personally be comfortable. Since you're asking the question, it sounds to me like it's outside your boundaries, as well. Even if you let her check your phone this time, I'd make sure to be clear that it's an extraordinary circumstance and not something to expect in the future.

4) Are you willing to break up over this? If not and she presses the issue, you don't really have any choice, now do you?

Well, in this instance, if you have absolutely nothing to hide, there won't be any harm in letting her check it. Afterward, reinforce to her the fact that you love her and her alone, and if she cannot accept that and be secure with herself (because distrust is an extension of insecurity), then maybe it's time to take a break from the relationship.

It might seem like a drastic measure to drop such an ultimatum but when dealing with trust -- the most important factor in a relationship -- you can't afford to send mixed signals.

If the reason that she wants to check your phone is because she is suspicious I would not let her since that means that she doesn`t trust you. I would think about whether I have shown her that she should or not to trust me, if the answer is that she should trust me I wouldn`t let her at all, if I did something stupid which should probably makes her not to trust then I would let her so I can get her trust back.

it sounds to me like she needs reassurance. the checking your phone thing could get old really fast, so sit down with her and talk to her about what has her so upset. if she is feeling afraid for the relationship - that you might cheat or leave her - be honest with her about how you feel. she might get aggressive as a way to cover up her fear. if she does, tell her you really want to talk, when she calms down.

if you can talk to her in a calm way and help her to see that there is nothing to worry about, she will most likely calm down. i would suggest that the next time you want to go out with an ex, tell her, so she doesn't see it as you sneaking off. i would think you would expect the same from her.

It is your property she does not have any right to touch or go anywhere near it without getting the police involved and obtaining a court warrant or just checking it while your sleeping but by doing that you will sacrifice a lot of trust in your relationship to keep your privacy but for some people privacy is worth more then love.

So whatever you choose you will have to punch either privacy or love in the face to get there.

I'm a girl and i'm telling you: don't let her check your phone. Some stuff is supposed to be personal, and she obviously doesn't trust you. You need to talk to her.

If it were me, I would interpret this incident that she doesn't think she can trust me, and anyone who feels that way can just take a hike.

Its a tough one. I am assuming you have no feelings for your ex and nothing happened? Well, if thats the case, you know that...........but she doesnt, and no one can blame her for being suspicioous.

Now turn the tables, and ask yourself, and give yourself an honest answer. How would YOU feel, if she met up with an ex for dinner for old times sake...................without telling you?

Let her check yours than check hers! Lol