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I am a jealous girlfriend?

I guess jealous isn't really the right word. Maybe p i s s ed. But not at him...I get upset with these girls.

My boyfriend and I have been together for a while and we have a great relationship, but he gets hit on all the time. Girls are constantly talking to him saying he should leave me and go to them and he'll get late night texts saying, "Come over." And it's not like he's disregarding my feelings, because he always reassures me that I'm the only girl for him.

He's very honest with me and will tell me when he gets a text or call from some girl so I don't find it later and think he's cheating. But I get incredibly p i s s e d off at these girls, like I could smash their face with a brick.

I'm not insecure. I know he wouldn't cheat, but it makes no sense to me. I can't help how I feel. But I guess I just don't understand why I get upset when I hear about these girls talking to him, even though I know he wouldn't do anything?

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  • ?
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    It's completely normal to feel that way - jealousy is a natural human emotion. It's no wonder you're getting fed up with all the constant hounding from girls who won't take a hint. Unfortunately there will always be girls like that - who will chase after what they want at whatever cost, and don't care who they hurt. But these girls don't matter. You know he wouldn't cheat - you trust him, you're not insecure, you have a solid relationship. He's honest about the attention and always reassures you you're the only girl for him, so there's nothing to worry about here at all. Of course you're angry at their petty attempts, but instead just feel sorry for them. Throwing themselves at a guy who's clearly not interested and happy with someone else - that's not cool or attractive. How desparate are they making themselves look, to other people as well as to your boyfriend? Instead of getting furious at them and feeling like you could smash their face in, laugh at them. They would love to know that they're getting to you. They want the drama, and they want you to get mad and flip out, and make yourself look like the paranoid, jealous gf. Plus, the thought that they could be slowly breaking down your relationship will be an added bonus. Show them up - make them look small. Act like you don't care even when you do. They're not getting anywhere. They all want him, but he's with you and only wants to be with you. The other person was right - feel flattered that they all find him attractive, but that you're the one he's chosen. These girls are nothing to be jealous about, and I know that you know that.

  • 1 decade ago

    Your only hurting yourself by getting mad, please....jealousy is a wasted emotion, or even getting pissed as you call it. it isn't affecting him in anyway, or these gals..if you think that him telling you is his way of being honest..and that he's not cheating...I mean really...seriously.... I'm not saying that he will cheat but if he was truly considerate of your feelings he would tell these girls to back off or delete them from his phone, or just not text back and be done with it, rather than keep getting them and then telling you about it. I think its his way of trying to make you jealous...like saying see how many girls like me.....honestly I'm quite sure you know better and really could do the same with all the guy's that you talk to, but lets act like adults here and not play these games.

    The way I see it, you could do sooooo much better...those kind of games are for kids, and it only shows how truly child-like he is by behaving like that. Leave the high school crap out of it and find someone who truly DESERVES to be with you......

  • 1 decade ago

    It's a girl thing, and if you didn't care then you would look like a bad girlfriend and he might think he could get away with cheating. As long as the two of you are communicating honestly, that's good. So don't worry too much. But remember, jealousy is normal and try not to let it bother you so much that it makes you crazy. Just think, "haha, he's mine girls! Get over it!" hahaha. :)

  • 1 decade ago

    Sometimes a little jelousy shows you have love in your relationship and if he is honest you got nothing to worry about, just take the messages as a compliment that other girls find ur bf attractive

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  • 1 decade ago

    this is the feeling i m going through these days....and i could imagine how difficult it is for u...to handle it...i too just wanna kill those girls who always mutters around my boy frnd...i love him very much,i trust him too ,he use to tell me everything...but the prob is i did not trust this girls .....

    solution to this problem is only in our hand by not responding soo much to these things and concentrating only on our relationship...and just try to behave in the same way...just be happy...nd thn these things will no more matter u...

    wish u luck 4 a better nd happy relationship...

    Source(s): experience...
  • ?
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    in line with risk u might desire to attempt not having long distance relationships reason often it is what occurs u have an prolonged distance relaitonship and that they say that they love u and each little thing on the internet, yet who is conscious whats quite occurring in the back of the curtain. Or if achievable attempt and meet one yet another each and every now and then.

  • 1 decade ago

    i know exactly what you are talking about, and i am a guy lol. but yeh just dont show your 'jealous' so much to him, i accidentally did that and my girl left me. relationships are all about trust, and if you trust him then you guys will go a long way, otherwise its not worth it. i regret every day that i questioned her and wish i could go in past and fix it, but its too late. however, its not too late for you, so just enjoy what you got, and trust him as much as you can :)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Just try to ignore them, they are the ones who are jealous of you for having a great boyfriend

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    What you need to ask yourself is how all these other girls are getting his number that they are able to text him??? Obviously he is giving it to them, and that is just wrong. You are right to be suspicious of him.....I know I would be too.

  • H
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    You're just afraid that you'll lose him and those girls are disrespectful.

    All he or you can do is explain each other's happiness with each other.

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