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My friend has decided to take on her daughter's responsibility, I don't agree. What do you think?
My friends daughter, who is 17 years old, just found out that she's four months pregnant. My friend, who I think is a VERY good mother, has always taught her children about the responsibilities and the consequences that come along with making the right decisions in life. Well, my friend has decided that she is going to take the responsibility to raise the child so the daughter can go to college (away from home) and go on with her life. My opinion to her was, not to do it. My reason was because my friends has been a single mother herself for 24 years (she has other children). I felt that the 17 year old should suffer the consequences and put her life on hold and raise her own child until it's the right time for her to continue to get on with her life. I feel the baby is her life and responsibility. Do you think as parents, we tend to let things go too easily?
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- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
Making sacrifices for our children is difficult not to do when you're a good parent. I think your friend is simply being the person she has always been. Is she happy about raising another baby? I think the baby would be best with the person who is most happy to have him/her. Or maybe they could raise the baby together? We're one of the only societies that thinks we have to raise our children on our own. I think her daughter could still take most of the responsibility while going to college. Or maybe share responsibility until she's out of school and has a good job. I'm wondering how she's going to support a child with no income and no skills? It will set her up for a lot of struggling and stress and what baby should be in an environment like that? It sounds as though you care very much for your friend and would like to see her have a break. I think you can continue to be a great friend to her by supporting her and helping her with whatever she decides even if it goes against your way of thinking. I know that can be difficult when you feel so strongly in one direction. I was a single mom too and I know how hard it can be but also how very rewarding. Also, I know how easy it is for children to make life changing mistakes. These are the times they need us most of all and the times we'll most regret if we're not there for them. My daughter is so grateful to me for being there for her and she's a well balanced and happy person in spite of the mistakes she's made. I hope all works out well for all of you:)
- gillLv 41 decade ago
I agree with your friend to be honest, if I had a daughter who got pregnant I would do the same. Plus her daughter will be in a better position to get a good job after college, and life will be better for all of them. Shes a fantastic mum and just wants her kids to be happy.
- 1 decade ago
I'm not a parent and don't plan to be for a long time (I'm only 19), but I agree with you. Your friend shouldn't have to feel like shouldering her daughters responsibilities for her. Her daughter is the one that got pregnant and should be the one that has to deal with the consequences.
- 1 decade ago
They are saying all of this now, when the time comes, things may be different. Their is nothing that you can say about it, no one is going to listen to you. I just about agree with you, but that is us. so wish them well and all of the blessing they are going to need it, in this day and time!
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- Anonymous1 decade ago
I can see your concern but it really isn't any of your business. It's between your friend and her daughter.
