What should I do about my marriage?

You're right, a lot is at stake here. But even so, your happiness is at stake too. The first thing you have to decide is what's more important, the things you listed above or your happiness. This is what I suggest:

You shouldn't run and hide anymore, with your affair, pregnancy and feelings. Because first off it's very disrespectful to your spouse. It's hard to deal with these feelings, but it's not your husband's fault so you shouldn't punish him by lying to him. It's going to be harder to do that in the soon future anyway, since your pregnancy is starting to show.

So I think it's time for you to come clean. Continue hiding and your journey is going to get so much harder from here. As hard as it may be you should get together with David and talk to him about what the both of you are going to do. Soon later both you and your spouse and him and his spouse should get together and explain everything. Be adults about it. There will be anger and disappointment involved, but if you spend the time yelling and arguing instead of talking and figuring things out then things won't be much better.

If you end up getting everyone together and discussing the situation then here's another bit of advice to make the trip a little easier. Before meeting, get together with a counselor. Tell him/her the situation and ask if they can be around to help with advice and to keep things under control just in case things start to get out of hand.

So don't hide any longer. You already hid this long and look what happened. An affair and a big mess. Imagine what will happen the longer you wait. If you're a good person and care about the people you love, then you should be honest to them, even though it may hurt.

I hope my advice helps and the best of luck to you.

First, you're not in love, nor is this guy your soul mate. Love takes time and shared experience together. You haven't had that with this new honey.

Second, do you really want to be a homewrecker? Is that the nature of your character and integrity? YOU are doing things against his wife, child, HIM, and your husband as well. The husband you made vows with. Do your vows mean nothing? Even if your husband divorces you now, you'll always have the knowledge that you did the wrong thing and that it resulted in destroying a lot of people's lives.

You talk to your husband and do it ASAP. He may give you what you want. Perhaps your new honey will leave his family, perhaps not. Statistically, it's not likely to happen. He's got an obligation to his child first and foremost, even over the one he's making with you. He's got a financial obligation to his child for at least 18 years. He stands to lose quite a lot. Perhaps your pregnancy isn't looking all that wonderful right now, especially since you're the 'other woman". Your husband could have the option of suing you for future earnings, which he should especially do under the circumstances. You seem more concerned over "stuff" than people. I think the very best thing that could happen to you under the circumstances is to learn some lessons in life and to grow up a lot.

No! No blessings and happiness for you, not the smallest bit right now! YOU look into David's wife and child's faces and YOU tell them what you did! YOU watch your husband's reaction when you destroy his world. You explain to your child someday, how s/he came to be. Then wonder why s/he can't rely on you to be a good parent. How can you ever talk about honor, courage, integrity, marriage, relationships, with what you're doing to all these others?

Tell your husband and let him give you his answer. Then leave. Let David take care of his family. You can make a living in another part of the country and raise your child. Let something good come of all of this shame.

Well I see divorce in your future whether it's by choice or not, so that is basically going to answer itself in time. When your husband realizes your pregnant, and he will, he'll do the math and then it's divorce court time, I'm sure. Do not try to pass the baby off as his, because you will only dig a deeper hole for yourself. As for the money, plan to lose some. You committed adultery, the baby is all the proof he needs, he will get a lot of your assets and such in community property. And in some states, mine included, no matter who the father of the child is, if the baby was conceived and/or delivered during a marriage, the husband is automatically considered the father and put on the birth certificate as such. My state is weird so it may be one of few. But I would look into that. Your husband could be the legal father of your child since you were married. I'm not saying that to worry you, but that's how it goes in situations like this. If this is the case you need to look into what can be done to get around this. If anything it will take time to fix. You mine as well get everything over with before the baby comes, you don't want to bring the baby into all this drama. Good luck!

It sounds like you have already made up your mind. You want to be with David. I have to say up front that the way things happened were not ideal. You already know that and are living with the consequences. You have to sit down with your husband and be honest. It's past time for that. He probably already suspects something is going on with you. If he is asking if you are pregnant, he already has some suspicions. In the end, you will have to not worry about the financial aspect of your life with your husband, the court will take care of that for you. If you want to be with David, you will have to take what you are dealt. Good luck with all of this and God bless.

You had an affair and from what i hear thats not good in a divorce. You need to tell your husband your not in love iwth him anymore and havent been and be honest that you are pregnant cause you wont be able to hide that for long. As for david, i hope you know for a fact he is going to leave his wife.

if you are only 2 months pregnant than you would not be showing. People don't start showing until 4 or 5 months. Also why was your husband just away for 4 months? Troll?

Sounds like a movie! Lol! Good Luck!

you are the typical american skank, selfish and deluded. you believe your happiness is paramount and that you alone deserve what you want. you are spoiled and selfish, you have betrayed your covenant with your husband and defiled yourself. you poor husband doesn't deserve to be treated this way, you have dishonored him, you have insulted his worth, he will never forgive you and never should. Any man that would bang another man's wife is nothing but a dog, a slave to his lusts. you hope for some meaningful relationship with this old friend, there is no chance, to him you are not trustworthy, and you will end up kicked to the curb once he has had his fill of you. you just ruined a mans life and dignity, hope you are proud of yourself

Talk. You have to talk to your husband. Don't ask questions online. Or talk to your mother. Mothers know everything.

What was the outcome? Hope everything is ok.