What should i do about my mother.? immediate help is needed please and thanks?

It is okay for your mother to go out.

It is not okay for you mother to be forgetting about you, staying over her boyfriends house and leaving you feeling insecure.

I think that you and me have a lot in common. My mom also used to be in an abusive relationship. She also has a boyfriend. When I was 16, my mother would stay with her boyfriend and forget about me and my sister.

Listen, this is my advice.

1. Have communication with your mother. Tell her how you feel. Ask her if she is willing to have an hour where you could both talk about things you both want different and things about the past. It will get hard, but I suggest keeping a notebook so that it can be organized, with one person talking at a time. The notebook is for if she says something that you want to reply to immediately. Instead of replying immediately, write down what you want to say in the notebook and then release it when your turn to speak.

2. If she is not wanting to truly communicate with you (For instance, my mother may have a disorder or social... thing that prevents her from being rational, so a lot of times this doesn't work with us.) Then accept this!! You have to accept this. Love your mom, she is going through a VERY hard time. Brighten her life. I know this is hard and I am someone who you don't know, but LISTEN! Don't let this suck energy out of you! You need to be positive, and only let this make you better! Trust me. I've lived being bitter about the way my mother ignores me and let her boyfriend kick me out so I had to live with my grandma when I literally did NOTHING except for not say good morning. Literally. Your mom has been abused, my mom has been abused. When she had me I was the light of her life, and I am now shining for her finally, and she is being fed. Although she is still not fair or reasonable or treating me with kindness a lot, I still try to be the best I can be. ALthough her boyfriend tries to suck energy out of me, just be the best I can be.

3. Focus on your life. What are your goals, etc. Your situation is NOT, THAT horrible! See how you can help others, focus on school and stuff, your goals, and... yeah.

Intervention. It sounds to me like she's doin drugs. You need to get close family and friends together, call up a nearby hospital and ask them about setting up an intervention. They will either direct you to a place that can help or they may be able to help. I'm sorry you're in such a bad situation. Just relax and take care of your baby brother. It's critical he gets loved and nurtured this young in life. Remind yourself that things will get better. And obviously nobody else is there for him. I know it's hard losing your freedom but you get to experience watching your baby brother grow and learn daily. His mom is having extreme difficulties right now so you gotta be there for him. He will appreciate it much, very much when he's older. Just try to get your mother help ASAP or it could turn over to child services. Fight against that and get your sister and mother to join you. Don't let the family be torn apart. If I lived near by I would be there in a heart beat to help out. I have two kids of my own and I could never ever think of losing them. Please get everyone you can together with a pro who does interventions. Your local police station could hook you up real quick. And it would probably work a lot better. They will give her a choice, straighten up or jail. I guarantee she will pick to straightsn up, please do it. And let her know YOU put it together. She will then understand she can't treat you that way. You will be proving to her that you've had enough and won't tolerate it anymore. She will learn, please please do it. I really hate to think of you and your family's situation and what will happen if nothing is done about her problem!!!

call social services