My mom is annoying. But explain why she's a jerk?

Okay, you're talking about a movie. She says something about it and you tell her she's wrong.

The fact that her opinion or interpretation doesn't match yours doesn't mean she's wrong, and you putting her down by saying she is, is indeed disrespectful. This would make anyone mad with you, for the superior attitude which assumes your take on something is the only valid one.

Instead of putting her down, why not act like someone who respects the thoughts of others and ask her questions about how she reached the conclusion she did. Example:

"Really, you didn't see the ending coming?" <--confrontational, says she's lacking insight

"I thought they gave away the ending." <--better

"Russell Crowe is fat and old and ugly. Who wants to see him running around?" <--says her taste in actors is bad, and that appearance is all that matters

"Russell Crowe seems kind of old for the role. He looks out of shape these days. I wonder if they used a double for all that running." <--doesn't diss her opinion on whether Crowe can be enjoyed

Basically, treat her as someone whose opinions are as valid and as valuable as yours, and you should get along a lot better.

I agree with Maryn.

I also agree with you. My mother was NEVER wrong. NEVER!! haha. She would literally tell me to do something, but thought she told me something else and I would get in trouble. I think it comes with the roll, being wrong as a parent is never ever a good thing. It means they're failing, so suggesting she is wrong for anything would hurt her feelings immensely. No matter what the subject.

When I was a teen I learnt this form of communciation, whenever refering to anything say:

> this makes ME feel.

>MY point of view is...

Example:

Bad - You're a jerk because you leave giant messes everywhere for me to clean

Good - I've become frustrated because this place gets messy really easily and I'd like to clean up after ourselves.

Bad - You're wrong, the movie went this way.

Good - I thought differently, because.....

Bad - You're so snobby and you talk like a b*tch.

Good - It really hurts my feelings when you use certain words or tones.

See? Make it about you, but you make the same point. It's just less agressive and you aren't putting them down, you're just stating your personal feelings or view.

Mothers always think that they are right. For instance if you say "Hi Mom, the grass is green", they will argue about it. It's just the way it is. If she is on her period, it will end soon. Anyway, good luck and try to keep your cool.Don't let her get to you!