My husband is an alcoholic 10 pts?

Your husband needs to go to AA.

The only catch here is that he honestly wants to get help for himself?

You give him that ultimatum and when you say it you stand on your word.

Alcoholism is a progressive disease that will only get worse if it is not attended to.

I suggest that you get into Alan-non to understand all you need to know about this disease and what your up against.

You can find much information right here on line here and also look up codependency.

I lived 25 years with an alcoholic with 4 children.

I did all I could do to help him but nothing worked.

We often think that if they loved us and the children enough they could just quit but it is not about us it is all about them.

I went back to school and educated myself but by then my three oldest children were grown and had left home.

I ended up taking my youngest son with me and got away from him.

I honestly thought that if I had ever left him that he would probably kill himself but.... he didn't.

Once I was gone he had found himself another woman and eventually married her and they bought a bar together.

That was 17 years ago and that poor lady passed away from cancer.

It did not take him long to get over that one and a couple of months ago he remarried another woman 15 years younger than him.

And, yes I must say that he met this one in a bar also.

His adult children are very angry with him and just let him be.

I myself now have a wonderful man in my life that loves me and all of my kids and I have never been happier.

I was in an addictive relationship for years and because of my codependency at the time could not see a way out from that addictive relationship.

In all honesty an alcoholic has to commit himself in staying straight for life or they will not stay straight.

They drive you crazy if you allow yourself to continue with them if they do not walk the AA program.

Never ever allow anyone to ever abuse you because they have a problem.

They either fix it because the help is out there or you get out.

Please go get help for yourself even if he does not.

My heart goes out to you sweety.

I know that you love him and want your life to be together, but he will not change until he is ready to change, which my be never. You have the welfare of yourself and your children to worry about and nothing that you do will make him see that he is messing up his family. I know you say that you do not want to divorce him, but you have to think of what this is doing to your children...your lives are at risk if he is constantly drunk, hit you and went to jail...what more danger do you have to put all of you in before you realize that he has to want to help himself? Try separating and telling him that due to his actions you have to leave...your priorities are now to the children, he is an adult and acting in a destructive manner...they deserve a healthy environment and so do you...

If you refuse to divorce him, there is nothing anyone can do to help you. Just understand this: YOU are the one f***ick up your kids by forcing them to grow up in the hell you call a marriage. You need to leave and provide them with a stable, loving, sane home to grow up in, even if it's a one-parent household. If you don't do this soon, you will destroy the relationship between yourself and them and they will resent you for the rest of your life.

you know it's really sad when everyone's first response is to just leave. It is never that easy. The question is how do you get him to the recovery proccess? Do you have to withdraw from him or do you just have to go to counciling with him? I think if you can figure that out, you can help save this man and save your relationship. Help find something that motivates him enough to change and get help. I am sorry for all this, and please keep the kids and yourself safe.

You're in an abusive relationship and you need to get out. I understand that you love him, but who do you love more, him or your children? You have to leave, if not for yourself then for your children. Go stay with your parents or a close friend, just don't stay with him.

Uhm... You need to leave.

This is really dangerous situation for you and the kids. You may sit around hoping he's going to change for years, while that's all your kids are going to know... and it's affecting their growth and development and future relationships w/ people. It's one thing to want to support him, but it's dumb and dangerous for you to stay in an abusive, alcoholic situation.

He needs to get help.

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You might find it helpful to connect with SMART Recovery. SMART is a peer-led recovery group for people who wish to quit addictions. It also has support for family and friends of alcoholics. Here is a link--go to the site and scroll down for "friends and family".

http://www.smartrecovery.org/