Should son buy a Christmas gift for mom or friend 1st?

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My mother was just telling me on the phone that my brother called her this morning and she is very mad! He explained to her that this Xmas he can not purchase any gifts for the family including you mom.  Then he said, "I DO HAVE TO BUY ONE FOR 2 GIRLS THAT I KNOW"  HE IS 48 YEARS OLD.  My mother is 70, he does hold lots of grudges from the past, but ALWAYS expects mom to buy for him, but he got mad this morning, because she mom, said to him, U mean to tell me you are going to buy for these 2 women in your life and not your mother!  He said "(PERSONALLY I THINK THIS IS AWFUL" "YOU RUINED MY F&*&*ING XMAS, ALL YOU THINK ABOUT IS YOUR FU&*inG SELF"  
? IS do any of U feel that a mother should come 1st @ xmas or is him buying for those 2 women that he met "this year" the more proper thing to do instead of mother, I guess should mom come last?  
we haven't been the closest family, we R getting better and MOM and I are getting along better and it really bothers me that he treats her with such disrespect.  What should he do?  what should mom do?  PS, he usually treats her not very good 1/2 good 1/2 bad, he tells her when he is mad, terrible things and calls her names.  Should mom @ 70 turn the cheek now and deal w/it or should she expect her son to buy her a xmas present?  
Please honest answers to this, she now would rather go to florida again, and her health is not good, don't even know if she will be with us next xmas?  U never know.....what to do with my 47 yr old brother and I am in my 40's also, but definately think mom comes 1st after my children/grandchildren, regardless of what mom has done in the past.

Stalker Bear™ · Accepted Answer

I would buy for my mother. The women probably wont be with him next week. Always put mummy first!

Anonymous · Answer

I'm 22 and every year I give myself a limit to $20 on each of my brothers (I have 4) and $20 for each sister (I have 4 and 2 in-laws). I also make sure the hubby has some nice gifts (usually around $200). The for my parents and grandparents and in-laws I make cookies and candies which ends up costing around $50. I also spend about $50 on my niece. Usually that's the only people I buy for are the ones I'm close to all year long.

Deeezzz · Answer

Personally, my family only buys xmas gifts for the younger children. We do not expect anything in return.  Me and my wife do no even buy each other anything.  We put all the money twords the children. Even at work, me and my coworkers have a mutual understanding; no gifts.  During these hard economic times, it tough enough to provide a good xmas to your own kids. More or less everyone else. Not trying to be a scrooge here.  But I have over 100 people in my family and coworkers.  I can't afford to buy for everyone.  Christmas is about Christ, not presents, anyhow.

Anonymous · Answer

You're question was too long to read but I don't by my mom an dad nothing for Christmas cause I don't have no money.  I usually give them like a peace of paper that says "this year I will do better in school" or "this year I won't get detention" or "this year I won't put any poopie shorts in the hamper" or something like that.  You don't have to actually BY something, you can just make a Christmas promise an by May or June they will have forgot about it anyway an you can go back to being bad.

Anonymous · Answer

mother mother mother..its the nice thing to do.

Anonymous · Answer

They both sound like b*tches.

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