lindalu

My marriage. For 3 little over years, my marriage has been slowly crumbling down. TODAY, my husbands father & step mom R coming to our state. The travel the world on their sail boat & about 1 1/2 months ago, they departed the boat and decided to travel across the US and visit their kids & see Grand kids. Well, surprise we get the phone call last night, they will be here tonight!OMG -1st, let me tell you I have been ill for 5 years off & on, 2 major surgeries, have a genetic disorder I found out when I turned 40 I was born with. I have due to the illness become MCD/GAD Severe. Major Chronic Depression and General Anxiety Disorder. I cry everyday, every night. I also see a counselor (I haven't seen her in about 4 months, going to see her in the new year, they R booked)my psychiatrist that I have been seeing for 3 years left the County to his home. NO phylacteries, which-ed helped so much I stopped seeing the counselor, he was like my link to breathing & helped me sort all of my problems out, he was the best. I have know one to talk to now. Except all of YOU, so Please with this holiday coming near, his parents coming today that have no idea we have marriage problems and I am not putting an act on for them, I think they may get a hint that things are a little different since there last visit 6 years ago.

Problem, husband & I argue constantly, that has slowed up the past week. I am being told constantly, "Why do U do this?" "Why do U want 2 ruin our nite" "I love you, U don't love me"--" U make it all up in your head" "U twist things into what U want them 2 b or how U want them 2 look" there R more, but these R the 1's that come 2 mind. I have told him, especially last night, I need compassion, comfort, I am so lonely I just want some1 2 hold me, love me. Comfort me. He says last night, come over hear on the couch, hesitantly I went, he put his arm around me. we were watching a movie. I tried to tell him, no I did tell him all I wanted in a man, which he should know by now, being together for 11 years. HE does no, we've been like this in our marriage almost 3 years. Our intimacy is nothing, we have had sex 2 times this year, last year about the same.

I can't even satisfy myself anymore! I am sad, lonely I told him last night as he has his arm around my waist "I am starving for compassion as a woman, he kept his arm around me and patted my back. He calls that attention to a woman. Yes, I have tried the little nities w/ g-string and when I parade in front of him, even like last xmas night last yr. I wore a very sexy santa outfit, very very hard for me, I am extremely selfconsciouss of my fat saggy body, I once was really huge, lost a lot of weight when I was sick and was 128 & last xmas night I weighed about 145. All he said was "that looks nice" that is it, last xmas eve. Well, eventually I went upstairs, took it off & got in bed. I mentioned it days later, why did U take it off to get into bed? I said, because, I wanted to be comfortable and most men would of got the hint, if not jumped on their wife right there on the coffee table! This anniversary, in Sept. 10 years marriage (a decade) we did nothing, all I wanted was a bottle oChampagnegn & go for a walk in the wooden path, he comes in the house after people stopping by, he says, I am just going to go to the store, he knew I wanted thChampinggn & when I get back we can leave, I can leave my friend working in the garage. I went to get ready, I dressed up 2 walk in the woods w/makeup on and everything. He left me sitting at the computer while he was out in the garage w/his friend talking for over 4Min'sns. he came in, he said you ready, I said oh sure, went went for a walk, he got a blanket out, put something in the blanket (me thinking it is the bottle) and went walking down the path, he takes a detour we never have and now has my curiosity at a peak. Finally he stops, unwraps the blanket and takes out a beer and keeps walking. I said I thought you were going to get us a bottle ? He said, I did it is in the fridge, we will have it later, and by the way, got done w/the walk went to the car, he hugged me, we got in went home to watch tv. I asked him about 9pm, hey lets get thcampaigngn out, he said, how aboutomorrowow night, I said WHAT he saidyeaheh, we''ll do that.

I am just to tired of this, I can't take it, I am so sad,lonely,frustrated,hurt, needing compassion so much, someone to hold me and tell me everything is fine, he says that is why I am here, I saiyeaheh, and you don't do it. He says " I Try to". I just don't know any more. PLEASE SOMEONE OUT THERE, TELL ME HOW TO FIX THIS, OR HOW TO LIVE LIKE THIS. I HAVE NOT LAUGHED OR SMILED IN YEARS AND THAT IS THE GODS TRUTH. PLEASE GIVE ME YOUR HONEST OPINION after all I am human. 1 more thing, my daughter especially is noticing mom is not happ

My mother was just telling me on the phone that my brother called her this morning and she is very mad! He explained to her that this Xmas he can not purchase any gifts for the family including you mom. Then he said, "I DO HAVE TO BUY ONE FOR 2 GIRLS THAT I KNOW" HE IS 48 YEARS OLD. My mother is 70, he does hold lots of grudges from the past, but ALWAYS expects mom to buy for him, but he got mad this morning, because she mom, said to him, U mean to tell me you are going to buy for these 2 women in your life and not your mother! He said "(PERSONALLY I THINK THIS IS AWFUL" "YOU RUINED MY F&*&*ING XMAS, ALL YOU THINK ABOUT IS YOUR FU&*inG SELF"

? IS do any of U feel that a mother should come 1st @ xmas or is him buying for those 2 women that he met "this year" the more proper thing to do instead of mother, I guess should mom come last?

we haven't been the closest family, we R getting better and MOM and I are getting along better and it really bothers me that he treats her with such disrespect. What should he do? what should mom do? PS, he usually treats her not very good 1/2 good 1/2 bad, he tells her when he is mad, terrible things and calls her names. Should mom @ 70 turn the cheek now and deal w/it or should she expect her son to buy her a xmas present?

Please honest answers to this, she now would rather go to florida again, and her health is not good, don't even know if she will be with us next xmas? U never know.....what to do with my 47 yr old brother and I am in my 40's also, but definately think mom comes 1st after my children/grandchildren, regardless of what mom has done in the past.

I would like to locate a person with the last name of Revis, in Romaina. If anyone can tell me how to locate this person for free, please let me know.

Thank you

Serious Opinions please...re: daughter 27 yrs old?

My daughter has been w/her BF and engaged 2gether 4 11 yrs. 1 child going on 10, 1, 1yrs old.

My daughter (molly) left her BF home & rented an apt. no power, she can't take her kids w/o power. Father/daycare is doing it. Dad, IM'd me last nite & said, I will do anything, I told her that., I need her want her, I miss her, I told her when she came back 1st time tell me molly if I screw up, show me, he said, she left, went to the park that day, she was quite and I didn't think much she left that night and never came back, she is in contact w/her kids everyday, but last night killed me when he said KK was saying mama mama ca ca mama he said she misses her and I said, molly please come by and put KK to bed w/me and that is it then U can do what U want, she said I can't, she told me that her baby that is 1 has never been away from her and she is dieing inside missing her, but, she said I have to do what I have to do. Please just accept it mom, don't judge me, I have to do this. (I would understand, if she was ALONE trying and thinking, but he is staying w/her and the Dad stopped by her apt/last nite and he said molly come to the door and talk w/me, her 1/2 brother started running her mouth & the dad said U know I did right back. Like the dad said, he (the 1/2 bro. has nothing to loose, the dad said we lose not him. I just found out that the 10 yr old knows and this is going to destroy her (she is very dramatic), molly just told me she will be getting the kids when the power comes on perhaps wed.

Now, she left about 1 wk ago & stayed in apt. 4 6 hrs, went back to her BF at 2:30 am that morn. Now her 1/2 brother is staying w/her to make her feel safe, she don't & won't be alone. I keep trying to tell her to go C the baby tonite she said I saw her this morn. I think she is jumping the gun on this.

for over 6 months, things have been bad, not physical, just words and him being a jerk, now he knows he shouldn't of, but he kept telling her pack your fJ&&** bags get 2 F#$ out. she would call me crying & crying and I did tell her, Molly, U have to make this decision, she said Mom, I wish U would just tell me what 2 do, I said I can't. Went to C the same Landlord got credit and a 1 bedrm @ this time.

About her 1/2 brother, he is almost 40, has nothing, he is an alcoholic and is staying w/her until she gets power, but, I think Molly should B by herself to go over what just happened, I mean how can she throw away 11 years and 2 kids? They have been physical w/ea. other in the past yrs ago, not now.

I feel her 1/2 brother should leave and let her B, she says, MOM, stop it, I am 27. (she has never ever been on her own, went from ME to HIM. Now that she has left him, she still isn't alone, she is w/her 1/2 bro.

Molly always put her family 1st, she is a cna, works @ the same job over 7 yrs, never been in a bar, she didn't drink or smoke, good girl, I told her so many times I am so proud of U.

Now, she is drinking w/her 1/2 bro, smoking too.

I no she is 27, she will not go 2 a counselor, she said mom just support me, but I feel she should put more thought into this, so it is hard to do. And the kids, OMG<

Should I say something to her 1/2 bro?? She will have a fit! and then some

Should I just stay out of it and see where the chips fall?

should I just be here if she needs me?

And really what do U think of a 1/2 bro, that she has only been close to for less than a yr, and never hung out w/or saw in years?

Please serious replys I wouldn't request that, but 2 children are involved, please advise me, perhaps, U know of something I could say to my daughter to open her eyes?

Please help

thank you

My daughter has been w/her BF and engaged 2gether 4 11 yrs. 1 child going on 10, 1, 1yrs old.

My daughter (molly) left her BF home & rented an apt. no power, she can't take her kids w/o power. Father/daycare is doing it. Dad, IM'd me last nite & said, I will do anything, I told her that., I need her want her, I miss her, I told her when she came back 1st time tell me molly if I screw up, show me, he said, she left, went to the park that day, she was quite and I didn't think much she left that night and never came back, she is in contact w/her kids everyday, but last night killed me when he said KK was saying mama mama ca ca mama he said she misses her and I said, molly please come by and put KK to bed w/me and that is it then U can do what U want, she said I can't, she told me that her baby that is 1 has never been away from her and she is dieing inside missing her, but, she said I have to do what I have to do. Please just accept it mom, don't judge me, I have to do this. (I would understand, if she was ALONE trying and thinking, but he is staying w/her and the Dad stopped by her apt/last nite and he said molly come to the door and talk w/me, her 1/2 brother started running her mouth & the dad said U know I did right back. Like the dad said, he (the 1/2 bro. has nothing to loose, the dad said we lose not him. I just found out that the 10 yr old knows and this is going to destroy her (she is very dramatic), molly just told me she will be getting the kids when the power comes on perhaps wed.

Now, she left about 1 wk ago & stayed in apt. 4 6 hrs, went back to her BF at 2:30 am that morn. Now her 1/2 brother is staying w/her to make her feel safe, she don't & won't be alone. I keep trying to tell her to go C the baby tonite she said I saw her this morn. I think she is jumping the gun on this.

for over 6 months, things have been bad, not physical, just words and him being a jerk, now he knows he shouldn't of, but he kept telling her pack your fJ&&** bags get 2 F#$ out. she would call me crying & crying and I did tell her, Molly, U have to make this decision, she said Mom, I wish U would just tell me what 2 do, I said I can't. Went to C the same Landlord got credit and a 1 bedrm @ this time.

About her 1/2 brother, he is almost 40, has nothing, he is an alcoholic and is staying w/her until she gets power, but, I think Molly should B by herself to go over what just happened, I mean how can she throw away 11 years and 2 kids? They have been physical w/ea. other in the past yrs ago, not now.

I feel her 1/2 brother should leave and let her B, she says, MOM, stop it, I am 27. (she has never ever been on her own, went from ME to HIM. Now that she has left him, she still isn't alone, she is w/her 1/2 bro.

Molly always put her family 1st, she is a cna, works @ the same job over 7 yrs, never been in a bar, she didn't drink or smoke, good girl, I told her so many times I am so proud of U.

Now, she is drinking w/her 1/2 bro, smoking too.

I no she is 27, she will not go 2 a counselor, she said mom just support me, but I feel she should put more thought into this, so it is hard to do. And the kids, OMG<

Should I say something to her 1/2 bro?? She will have a fit! and then some

Should I just stay out of it and see where the chips fall?

should I just be here if she needs me?

And really what do U think of a 1/2 bro, that she has only been close to for less than a yr, and never hung out w/or saw in years?

Please serious replys I wouldn't request that, but 2 children are involved, please advise me, perhaps, U know of something I could say to my daughter to open her eyes?

Please help

thank you

PLEASE take me serious, please,

I am in a situation that I really don't know what to do, and now there is a time limit. I have been w/my fiance' for 11 years, we just had our 2nd daughter 1 year next mo. We have been fighting really bad for about 6+mo's. . He has told me that I have 1 month to put the ring back on & 6 months to get another job. I love my job & the people and staff, I work @ a Nursing Hm. almost 8 yrs. now. HE actually went as far as calling places to C if they were hiring so I could get a better job, I told him I didn't want to, he said, I should do this 2 benefit us & always want more and get better. I enjoy the family time, quite times, comforting times.

He makes almost double the $ that I earn, he just bought a huge truck and I bought a small car, mine is paid off now, his isn't. he works in another city and takes my car everyday and says too bad that I want my car, u r not going 2, I work father than U. I have told him the truck is so big it is hard for me to drive, he don't care, just takes the keys and goes.

He calls me names everyday,

tells me to get to F.... out of HIS house, gives me time limits on everything.

He even claimed our 1st daughter on income tax for 7 yrs and last yr he let me and this yr, I could claim both, like he did 4 7 yrs. I got a copy, his mother makes it out and they claimed one and me one, even though, he knows I was counting on this money and we had a house fire, (which the bed went up in flames, he was smoking and then it started), he got a lot of money out of that, I didn't get anything., the insurance co. said I wasn't on the policy and should of had renters ins.

I clean, work full time, take care of both children, keep our home immaculant, make our even dinners, do laundry and his and fold them,

If i am watching TV in the BR, he comes in lays down and takes the remote out of my hand and just does what he wants.

The other night when we were fighting he asked our daughter (9), how would you like a new mommy, a step mommy, that way u get 2 BD's, 2 Xmas's. I couldn't believe it, I am now at the point of I want to leave but don't have the means to do so.

I am not perfect, yrs ago, we used to fight and it would get physical, I have gotten so mad I made a hole in the wall, but we are talking about yrs ago when we lived in an apt., we have a home now, HIS HOUSE>, in which I have to pay the lights, cable, phone and buy all the food every week. (Again, he makes double $ than I do. and I put gas in the monster truck.

Also, when he asked me to marry him last year and he has mentioned this several times that I would have to sign a pre-nup, I said NO, he said, I have a lot of assets I worked 4, if it weren't 4 me, he wouldn't even have HIS house. The last thing he said this morn, b4 work was bye *****, I cry, I need affection, attention, love, understanding intamacy etc. and I did tell him this, but nothing, unless he rolls over and says, he give me a BJ, I am like, come on, R U serious, yeh, what about it,

he wants it his way the only way or I can leave, no where to go, not enough money to get there from here whereever that would be.

I need to know, (what does it mean when a man gets out of work, comes through the door, (remember we do not get along) and he is grinning ear to ear and smiling? That is bugging me.,

I am at the point where I want to move out on my own w/kids, I don't want to fight anymore, I just sit there,

like last night, I went to the computer put a song on and was listening, a rap type song and he came in and you would of thought he caught me w/my pants down having sex, he called me names, told me screaming I know why U r playing that song, shut it off now, MY God, can't I listen to music, he says, it is a past guy thing and he is mad. that is bull.

I don't know what to do, I get up, never ever have gone to bars or been a bad mom, I get up, get 2 kids ready, go 2 work, p/u baby, come home, clean, watch kids, plan supper and do everything, he does NOTHING.

He is extremely hateful to me, calls me names, wants me to leave, says I can't take the kids, I am scared that bcause he makes more money they would give him custody. NO police have ever beeni involved when things got a bit ugly, He says he will always get a better laywer he is right, i don't have the money or hom to fight with. I have no money saved up to get an apartment, I do not want to bring my kids to the Shelter, we live in the Country and my daughter goes to the same school since she began in the country town.

I just need to know, what would you do, really seriously....

I do not want this to effect the kids, I want a normal life, I thought I had it all now it is going, but is it right to live w/someone that is so mentally abusive as this man? But, another question, (Is this the real way life is, go 2 work, come home, argue, go to bed get up and do all over aga

I have been married for 10 years together for 12. the last 4 years have been so distant, like we are friends w/very little benefits. He is self employed. so he is home all day. I am disabled now, I have a genetic disorder, diagnosed 5 yrs ago. It has been extremely depressing, I have worked all my life until then.

I am extremely depressed, I long for compassion and understanding and love, he feels he gives it and I just need to try harder. I have given my all. I don't know what else to try.

I have tried the sexy nity, the candles burning, the perfume and music,counselingg,psychiatristt, family and still he feels, well we just need to work harder. I love you, he says, I say now, I know you do, but just not the way I want to be loved. I am a woman and need some compassion. I don't care about the sexual part anymore, just to be held and comforted. I am not the one that is saying this and I told him,well, you are fine the way life is going. You don't want to be alone, you want to b2gether, but on romance, he says yes i do, you need to give me a chance, and now it has been a while and you feel if I do anything it is for myself, so how do I do that? and I said, you need to show it and not keep saying I love you. he says he does.

I am tired, I am so depressed, I sit here, look around, I don't even want to do anything here anymore., I feel like just letting everything go andexistt here, that is what I am doing at this point,rightt?. He says give me a chance, gosh, I thought I did.

I was married b4, he wasn't and marriage to me isn't this way. I told him that and he thinks that I am comparing marriages and men.

I have an opportunity to talk with someone from the past, I don't know if that is a good idea, to close for comfort perhaps....I don't want it to spark anything, but then again, i don't know . perhaps someone can give me some help here, please.

I know I think it is wrong, . But I am so lonely and sad, I want to be held and show love, but going in that direction would almost be going backwards. I would rather not say, but I am sure you can read into what that meant, I don't know what to do., I need some help here.

Yes, I have had hobbies, art/music/walking/reading/painting/drawing/ on the internet ......

I have run out of things to do, I guess I just don't care anymore....

some help please :(

I AM A WOMAN IN MY EARLY 40'S & BEEN MARRIED FOR 9 YRS & FOR THE PAST FEW YEARS, I BELIEVE IT HAS BEEN A LITTLE OVER 3 YEARS, BUT HE WOULD SAY 1.5. MARRIAGE HAS GONE DOWN HILL. I FEEL LIKE HIS FRIEND, NOT WIFE. WE LIVE AS B/F'S.(BEST FRIENDS THAT ARGUE ALMOST EVERY NIGHT) SAME BED RM, WAKE UP 2GETHER, GO ABOUT OUR DAY,LIVE 2GETHER,LIKE FRIENDS SNUGGLE @ NIGHT, WE ARGUE, SERIOUSLY ABOUT 6 OUT OF 7 NIGHTS. HE SAYS I TWIST THINGS, BLAME HIM. HE SAYS HE IS TRYING, BUT HOW CAN A MAN TRY IF THEY DON'T EVEN HAVE SEX W/THEIR WIFE? AND NOW I AM AT THE POINT OF FRUSTRATION AND I AM A SAD, LONELY, FRUSTRATED, AND ALMOST TO THE POINT, I DON'T CARE IF I EVER HAVE SEX OR AN ORGASM AGAIN, (ORGASM AS IN BY MYSELF INDULGENCE, AND I THOUGHT I WOULD NEVER SAY THAT. I KNOW PEOPLE SAY, "IF THEY R NOT GETTING IT @ HOME THEY R GETTING IT SOMEWHERE, BUT HONESTLY, I DON'T THINK HE IS. HE SWEARS HE HAS AND WILL BE ALWAYS FAITHFUL, I DON'T EVEN HAVE A DOUBT THAT HE ISN'T, I JUST CAN'T UNDERSTAND. I GOT VERY SICK 4 YRS AGO AND THINGS HAVE NEVER BEEN THE SAME, HE SAYS, NO WAY, THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO W/IT. BUT HE CAN BE LIKE A B/F YOU COULD EVER HAVE, HE STOOD BY MY SIDE THROUGH ALL SURGERIES/MAJOR FAMILY ISSUES (NOT US), MY FAMILY.

I TOLD HIM I HAVE GAVE ALL I CAN GIVE, I EVEN WENT AND BOUGHT ONE OF THOSE VERY SEXY RED NIGHTIES THAT WOMEN WHERE ON XMAS NIGHT AND HE THOUGHT IT WAS SO CUTE, BUT IT DIDN'T GO NO WHERE NOT EVEN ON OUR ANNIVERSARY OR NEW YEARS EVE., I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE. I AM TOTALLY LOST. THIS IS MY 2ND MARRIAGE AND THE LAST ONE I WALKED OUT, DUE TO ALCOHOLISM, (BAD). THIS IS DIFFERENT. I TRY, I FAIL, I EVERY NIGHT HE COMMENTS ON SOMETHING ABOUT ME, BUT THEN SAYS I NEVER EVER TELL YOU IT IS YOUR FAULT OR U R DOING SOMETHING WRONG, I AM AT WITS END. I JUST SIT AND CRY AND CRY. I TELL HIM HE IS THE KEY TO MY HAPPINESS AND HE SAYS, I AM HERE, U NEED TO TRY, OMG, I HAVE FOR SO LONG NOW. HE SAYS, WHY DO U CRY ALL THE TIME? I JUST NOW, LOOK AT HIM AND HE SAYS, I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG, I LOVE YOU SO MUCH., U R A BEAUTIFUL WOMAN AND I WANT OUR MARRIAGE TO WORK, BUT WE LIVE AS FRIENDS THAT FIGHT EVERY NIGHT THEN GO TO BED AND SNUGGLE AND WAKE UP AND DO IT AGAIN. NIGHT AFTER NIGHT AFTER NIGHT....

JUST NOW, I WAS TRYING TO EAT SOMETHING AND GOT KIND OF SICK AND HE COULD TELL I AM UPSET, WE WERE ARGUING EARLIER(WHATS NEW RIGHT) AND HE SAYS, WHAT IS WRONG, R U UPSET ABOUT SOMETHING, I SAID YEH, U. HE SAYS, I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING I SAID YEH I KNOW, NOTHING, RIGHT AND I SAID I AM SO TIRED OF LIVING LIKE THIS, NOT A REAL MARRIAGE, HE SAYS, YES IT IS AND WE NEED TO TRY. WELL, OMG, WHAT DOES HE THINK I HAVE BEEN DOING FOR THE PAST FEW YEARS. AND NOW HE SAYS WE SHOULD TRY???????I AM TOTALLY CONFUSED.

I DON'T THINK I CAN TRY AGAIN, I FEEL LIKE I SHOULD JUST SHUT MY MOUTH, TELL HIM YES, U R RIGHT AND I ACKNOWLEDGE WHAT U R SAYING AND I AM SORRY. (THAT IS WHAT I TELL HIM ALL THE TIME, SO HE WILL STOP THE ARGUMENT THAT WE R IN), BUT I FEEL DIFFERENT, LIKE MAYBE SEPARATE BEDROOMS?? HE DON'T WANT TO. SO, THIS IS IT. I HAVE TO LIVE LIKE THIS FOREVER, U SEE, I HURT MY EX, VERY BADLY WHEN I LEFT HIM AND WENT ON W/MY LIFE W/MY KIDS (THERE WERE SERIOUS PROBLEMS, NO ABUSE THOUGH), BUT I FEEL NOW THAT I AM PAYING FOR WHAT I DID TO ANOTHER PERSON. AND I DO NOT WANT TO HURT ANOTHER HUMAN LIKE THAT EVER AGAIN. SO MAYBE, WHAT DOES GO AROUND, DOES COME AROUND, I DON'T KNOW, WHAT WOULD U DO IF U WERE ME? PLEASE THINK FOR A MINUTE AND PLEASE BE HONEST.....

PS, SORRY, 4 THE GRAMMAR, I TYPED VERY FAST TO SEND THIS OUT!

yesterday i was answering a question and had to leave and now when i got on today it is gone, my answer that i wanted to finish, how do i get back all that work that i put into answering her question? do I have to start all over? How do u save your work until next time?

Thanks

Hi, My son 24, schizophrenic has been on zyprexa for about 4 1/2 weeks 20 mgs. He is just starting the paperwork for a psychiatrist and that takes time, to go to a mental health clinic. and his MD is trying. she is on VACATION. OMG< last night he was off the wall so bad and scratching the walls from wall to wall, pouring water on top of his head, throwing water in the glass all over the walls. I told him take this now, and gave him his kolonopin and he held it in his mouth and finally got a drink of water and spit the water forcefully out of his mouth. so the pill dissolved and he had to get to the sink be4 he swallowed it spit it all over the sink like spitting the water and pill out. What happens usually when someone stops a psychotropic drug for schizophrenic disease for a few days just starting treating and he was severe mentally ill w/no treatment for years. He was so much better on the med, but he gained weight so fast, that bothers him and I don't know what to do.

He called this morning and said sorry and he said he smoked a little pot last night and he thinks it made him go out there....but, I think he has been not swallowing the pills for about 4 days now.

What is the best thing to do? I already called Crisis and Counseling last night when he wastotallyy in a bad manic state and they breathed hard and said what do u want me to do? I said what yourprotocoll is!!!!, she said he has his rights, and he don't have to take the meds and sorry bye.

I said I will be over to give u the meds and he said I took my kololnopin this morning and I am not supposed to take the Zyprexa until tonight. I don't think he really took his med this morning, and I don't think he will be willing tonight for the other med.

What do I do,

This has been so crippling for me the last 6 weeks and I have gotten physically sick so bad and I don't have high blood pressure and a few weeks ago when all this was coming to a boiling point my bp was 140/116, I feel like my head is going to burst, I can't take this again all over again

I need help fast....

My best friend, we r now in our 40's. she recently got remarried, about 3 months ago. she invited my husband and I, since I am her best friend since we were 6. That week before the sat, she got married was a week from hell. My son, the police, violence and abuse from my son, my grandson showed up, he is 3 and I had to watch him. Anyways on our way to bring him home, we past her house and I said OMG, today is her wedding, I was dressed with work clothes on from working outside and looked terrible. I never went to her wedding.

She has not called me or contacted me since. I miss her terrible, she is the only friend I have, due to trust issues, that I am being counseled for. I feel if I call her that is impersonal, my daughter (grown up) said mom, she is your bf you need to call and tell her the truth, that you forgot with everything that was going on, but I am afraid I lost my bf, what would you do,

Well here it is in a nutshell so to speak. I haven't worked in 4 years. Disabilities became sick 4 yrs. ago and found out i have a genetic disease. And severe scoliosis. Anyways, i went to a interview yesterday at a homeless shelter for volunteer work. I really have some problems with my adult son of 24, mentally ill. He is always/most of the time homeless and hungry, he is verbally abusive severe, and is can be psychical abusive also. I want to do this volunteer work, but I have been in a depression, major chronic depression for 4 years. I need to stop worrying about my son and get on with my life, but I am worried where it is coming winter that he will be homeless again, and yes, i have tried counseling for him he won't go, put him on meds, he throws them away, he was hospitalized for 3 days they let him go. He has to go to court AGAIN, he said he mistakenly took a soda for rite aid and they called the police. He won't go for help, he won't take his meds, he can barely go in to the store to get food because of his anxiety. I am constantly crying and sad because he won't get help. My husband has just about had it, my son was here last night and stopped by briefly and was talking to me and said hey mom, you need to get a real man , oh just kidding to my husband and they do not get along and there has been violence Between them both a few times. My husband tells me , no help until he gets himself help. but that is hard for a mother to hear.My son is always in need of something.... always. should i do this volunteer work or stay home, should i keep helping my son, i have cut back or stop completely?

After reading this i don't even think this makes sense, i have too many questions and not sure how to ask :(

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This may be a long one but i need serious only advice. My son, 24 mental problems, very bad temper, verbally and physically abusive. My husband has in the past gone to save him when his car broke down in the middle of the night, quite far away, going and recharging his battery at all hours, worked on his car, Saved him from going to jail a few times, my son has stolen from him , my husband has given him money and food when he had none, gave him a bike to use and he broke that. and when he was at the shelter 100 miles away, that he walked to, my husband went to find him and he did standing in a soup kitchen line. And he brought him back to his home town he stayed with us on the and my son found someone to stay with for a short time, then got kicked out of everywhere even a shelter once. He has a criminal trespassing on our property from destroying and abuse. He has shut a door on my husband and hit him in the face with hit, assaulted my husband, calls him names, told the cops he sells pot, which he doesn't and when the cops came they found some pot, due to my pain and my DR, encourages me to smoke when i am in severe pain. today my son stopped by and i was outside and all i could hear was my husband screaming at my son to get out of of house, because no one was in here. and my husband screamed it again, he finally came out and got on his bike and started to leave and i said wait, let me talk to you, he said sorry, gotta go. the other day my son got upset about something and said to me "when _______ was in jail did you suck on his friends _____. Because he tried to hit me on my bike. That really made my husband mad. He said no one is going to talk to his wife like that. Now, my son refuses meds and counseling, says he isn't sick, he really is paranoid schizophrenic with some delusions. My husband has done a lot for him and he still calls us names and is very verbally abusive and a couple of weeks ago my husband and him was on the ground scuffling.

Needless to say, it is hard being in the middle of things and the things that happen to my son, hurts, because he is mentally ill and it didn't happen until he was 22. and never been the same since. Their relationship has been up and down for over 10 years and my husband said he is tired of the assaulting, the verbal abuse and the way he treats me so abusive at times, hurting my feelings. He said NO MORE< So, should I be upset with my husband? Should I stop doing for my son, money, and food, since he doesn't get the help he needs and won't won't. and Yes we have been to counseling and mediation about this and still the fighting goes on. what should i do respect that my husband has tried and understand his point or ignore my husband and be there for my son. ( please keep in mind that he does have a mental illness and is abusive, he is 24. ) he was just at my door, my husband is gone and i let him in and he asked for money, again i gave him 5 bucks and he said he has no food, but refuses to go to the food bank or soup kitchen, I am in tears as I write this and I said to him as he was leaving, why won't you get help, the family loves you, he won't answer me and walked out. I feel used. I told him that we can not help anymore until he helps himself and I think it is taking a tole on my marriage. WHAT TO DO?

I really need some serious answers here ok,

I have written b4 about my son. He has a mental illness and will not go for counseling or on meds. He has been diagnosed and hospitalized 2 times for 3 days.

He is constantly out of money, he gets evicted from every apartment and usually is homeless.

The family is tired of helping him because he won't help himself. I told him today, he came and said he had no food I gave him some and a couple of bucks. My husband said if i stop giving, perhaps he will go for help, if no one helps him he won't have a choice but to go to the clinic .

I feel so bad for him and wish i could just do something. He is rude, verbally abusive and can be and has been physically abusive.

There is a criminal tresspassing on him for our property, but he still comes here and don't care. My husband is fed up. I am too in a way, just feel bad for him.

He is almost 24. He is on disability. He is really out there lately, and needs meds badly.

What should I do, I have tried i think everything. I even offered to go with him to the mental health clinic. he says no.

What to do?