Don't want to sleep with hubby anymore, but don't want divorce?

You're not stuck. Physical attraction is something you need in a relationship. Don't stay with him just because he's a great dad and ya'll are great friends. Try to out new things during sex. Maybe you're just bored because it's the same thing over and over. trying new things could help.

But if there is no hope for sexual attraction happening again... you might have to reconsider a divorce. Even if you get a divorce, ya'll could still stay great friends and close. He might even be feeling the same way you do.

I'm sorry to hear that cause yeah you do seem like you're stuck. I read the entire thing and the only thing i can say is you're better off without this guy. Maybe try just staying away for a week , just the kids and you. Take a break. If you can take it, then you're better off as a single mom. If not, try and talk to him and work out the relationship so there won't be a divorce if you would think of that. If he's just a friend to you, and not much of a husband. And you don't have sexual feelings towards him. Tell him that too. Maybe he'll realise and if loves you a lot, like he says he does. He'll find a way to prove to you that both of you and the kids are in a happy family and you shouldn't feel stuck at all. I truly hope i helped.

xoxo <3

I think communication is the best way right now. You need to talk to him and let him know that you want him to do more around the house, if not to at least get a job. If you get a divorce, he'll just try to get alimony out of you. DON'T DO IT! Tell him to get off his a$$ and help around the house more. He's a stay at home dad. He needs to do what a stay at home dad does. You are resenting him cause he doesn't do anything. As soon as that changes, you'll change.

I have to agree with the first poster. You have involved children in this. It's not fair to them to suffer because the lust has worn off and you have let the relationship go down hill.

How does he feel about all of this (you have talked to him right)? Have you made time for the two of you or even the four of you? It sounds like everyone is going in their own direction rather than making an effort to be a family.

you have a problem there alright.will what would like for some one to say.it looks to me you have made your main up so what do you wont.look you new what you were getting in to be for you got there right so why put the blame on him.you have just as much in this as he did. the way i see it you both got in to this to fast and you did not think about what would come out of it.now you have two little ones and you just now see what you did. i think you need to set back down and re-look at this because you are not looking at it in the right way.what you did was lust in the first place and you know that. that's why you got together not because you did not have some were to go.look you have to be honest to your self first then you can be honest whit him.the way I see it you both had the same Idea and now your not sure what to do about it.the best advice i can give you is to work it out and do what you have to.because now you have two little ones how is counting on you to do what's right here.so get over your self's and think about thoughts kids and do what's right ok. you have to work out your problems as best as you can.look here some thing to look at. make a list for him you need to do and he can make a list for you. and what you both do is work on them in tell you get all of it work out.you both are adults so act like ones and do it for your kids ok. now that's the best advice i can give you.your friend Fred

Once someone cheats it is hard for them not to cheat again. You both have a high potential to cheat. Your husband caused you to cheat so he should accept it when someone else causes you to cheat on him.What goes round comes round. As you say, you have other sexual options. That is your level of morality and commitment so it does not matter what we say. you will cheat soon.

Seven yeas is very long in the UK. The average is 9 years for marriages so you are close to the average.

I see exactly what your problem is. You other husband was an addict to drugs & you had allot of fun & went out. I so understand everything your saying cause my partner smokes pot & we have allot of fun to. Now here is the biggest problem you have now you new hubby likes to take care of his responsibilities as a father & take care of you as well. I understand he has a bad back. Just explaine to him to get everything done before you get home. You need to communicate with him.

You have the perfect life right now you just dont see it.

your right you moved to quickly, and you went from having lots of friends and things to do to being someone who just worked all the time, and than came the kids and his bad back, no wondered your bored, have you talk to him about a mini vacation just the two of you? if he don't resent the fact of you going out once in a while make some new friends and go out with them, but honestly if i was working like than going out would be the last thing i would be thinking about, it would be bed bed bed as i crawled my way into it, have a talk with him about doing his share of the house work as agreed upon, but if your supporting him and your self where before you needed a place to go to, you should just be able to leave him and start over, next time don't jump so fast into a relationship

No guy wants a wife who won't sleep with him. He'd be a good dad in either case whether you were around or not...no need to live in limbo. Let him go so he can find happiness. Life is too short to live it without intimacy.

same place honey. give him a option and if he doesnt choose the one u want him too...theres another man out there. im going through this w my current hubby. he is capable of doing work but thinks he is to good to do it. hes 23 no job dropped out of school and now that i kicked him out he lives w his mommy. we are going to counciling but i dont see any progress. he wants some one to cater to him and i want a man. i am glad i know now. so give him a option of doing chores round the house, a job, or get the f*ck out.