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selfish or not?! any advices will help?
My fiance n me living with my parents, we bought the house together.
My sister, whom is married, had a baby, currently live out of state. she doesnt have a job since her baby too small. she got problems with her husband, basically not a happy marriage.
She want to move out of her husband place into the house ( which we're living ).That is my sister but somehow i feel... not happy about it. Since we move in the house, my fiance n me tried to keep it clean n nice, do work and put money to improve it but it seems like my parents dont have any ideal about that. And now they want my sister move in with us, we have 3 generations live in the same house in my country, and that's normal. But for me, i dont like it be that way, i was suggested to live with them cause they're my parents, and they're not really speaking english. sometimes i feel like babysitting, and that's enough. i dont want another baby with her baby to take
care of. am i too selfish to my relatives ?!
* my parents do help us with the morgate
3 Answers
- Al BLv 71 decade agoFavorite Answer
It is not really selfish but there is also another solution. Let your sister move in until she can go to social services and get help getting a place of her own, one solution, but another is to suggest that she go to social service where she is to get help or if her husband is abusive to a domestic violence shelter because really she may not be able to bring the baby up here without her husband trying to get the baby back. If she was married there or even since she lived there, that is where a divorce should be filed and a request for child support. If she needs a lawyer for that, she can go to legal aid there.
- MaryLv 51 decade ago
god, i thought i had problems with trying to try to get my 18 year old to move out haha.
Maybe you seem like the type who people can and do depend on and since you took your folks in then they think you'll do the same for your sister.
I think your sister, if things are really bad should sell up her place with her husband and move to a small flat near you so she has someone around to support her but no i dont think you should take them in unless she is in dire straights and hes hitting her or something abusive.
You've already been kind enough to take your parents in so assess the situation and work out how you can help her. If she doesnt have her own home with her husband then maybe you both could look into renting or state housing somewhere nearby.
- 1 decade ago
It is not selfish to want your own space with your fiancé.
However it seems like you feel a strong obligation to help your family. So if you do not feel that you can make your family move then make the best of the situation you are in.
