How long do you think it will take my sister to leave her cheating husband?

the more you try to encourage her to leave him the less she will want to. lots of men who are cowards will have an affair with the hopes the wife will divorce him. but what was the deciding factor in me filing for divorce was that my father the most trusted person in my life, told me that once this happens its never the same. then i knew no matter how much i tried to save the marriage and even if he did come back that it could never be the same as it was. maybe if a trusted family member spoke to her she admired and trusted completely she would decide to get out of the marriage. and even if he did decide to end his affair how long would it be before he did the same thing over again to her? why keep opening oneself up for heartache when you can deal with it now, grieve over it and its over with. cheating usually goes on for years, and then one day you will wake up and maybe be just too jaded, or bitter to even want a new life. but she has to make her own decisions, and make her own choices.

Offer an opinion but please, don't tell her what to do and whatever you do don't present it in this manner. I understand your anger and frustration but no one likes to be told what to do and you can't judge other people for their actions. I definitely don't condone cheating especially when children are involved but there are two sides to every story. OH MAN- i promise I am not defending his actions because I agree that it is quite cowardly to do such a thing as cheat on your wife and children with another woman.

I am just saying that maybe... their marriage is on the rocks and he flubbed up. You can't accuse him of additional cheating unless you have solid, hard, facts so for now, lets assume it was just this once. He made a mistake- people are human. Now he is being open and honest with her and they are agreeing to try and resolve their issues. They could be thinking of their children here. Ppl don't realize how hard divorces are on children and I am impressed that the two of them are even trying to reconcile. If he wants to leave her, he eventually will but you don't know what is going on his head. Maybe this can in the end, work out for them. You can suggest they see a therapist and you never know, maybe they will get to the root of the problem and work this mess out. Cheating on a spouse can do one of two things- 1) Destroy the marriage or 2) Bring them even closer because in some situations, the parties involved realize what they almost lost and that scares them more than the work it takes to make a marriage work

See what I am trying to say here. I think your best bet is to offer your love and support because in the end the decision is your sisters and if you develop a hatred towards him, it can effect your relationship with your sister negatively. She needs support and not someone to tell her what to do because if she listens to you and later regrets it, you may be in deeper trouble because in the back of her head- she will partially blame you.

Good luck and you are very nice sister to be concerned for her. I think maybe they need professional help and if they are able to seek that- maybe you can join her so someone can help mediate while you express your true feelings!

I don't know how long it will take your sister but I know some women who had a cheating spouse and rather than leave, decided they would have an open relationship. Of the few women I know of who's in this kinda situation, only two of them do I know very well to be able to ask specific questions. The others are just associates or friends of friends whom I don't know well enough to know specfics. And of the two I know, one is extremely happy in the situation while the other tolerates that as how she has to live to maintain peace in her relationship.

So, not every woman will automatically leave a husband who is cheating. Some women will see that as a "if you have lemons... " situation and roll with it. If I were in your situation and my sister's husband was cheating on her, and she wasn't the type of woman who would start seeing others too, every time his name came up, I would encourage her to leave. The only thing that would stop me would be her telling me that she didn't care about him cheating. As far as it backfiring on me, that wouldn't be a concern because she knows me well enough to know that whatever it was I was saying to her, was out of concern, and I wouldn't hesitate to make the exact same comments whether he was standing right there or not, so as to not be talking behind his back.

Some women choose to stay in the relationship others don't. Your sister wants to work it out with him and that's really her decision to make. She's probably afraid of being alone, dragging her kids through a divorce, starting all over again, losing security, etc. Some women choose to stay because they are so afraid of change. You can be supportive of her, but she ultimately will be the one to make the choice for herself. She might open her eyes tomorrow or she may choose to keep them closed if she feels she has too much to lose.

Encourage your sister to talk to someone. There is a possibility the marriage can be saved if your BIL faces his problems and I'm all for saving marriages where possible.

It sounds as though you might be more upset because it is your sister and your nieces and nephews.

Be a good sister and be there for her, however you can. Offer her a shoulder to cry on, to be a babysitter, and support where you can.

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You sound like her mother not her sister. How do you know SO much of this and she doesn't?

You need to stay out of this. Reason is she won't go until she feels the need to go. Yes it might be years but it's her marriage not yours. It's her home, her kids, her choice.

Take her to a professional and get that person to put some sense into her.

The final decision is always her!

If your sister does not know how to deal with her husband, she will have to learn how to do it. You can not propose to her to take an action unless, she herself, wants to proceed.

it really depends on your sister and her mental level of how much can i take and her feelings on i can fix him. or he will come back.

You should stay out of it.

express how you feel but stay out of it!

unless she asks