36 weeks and my family [[and his]] is INSANE...?

Okay... to start. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years [[we aren't married yet because both of our families had lots of marriage issues]] and his mother has never liked me! She never hid it either [[one Christmas while I was in the shower they opened presents and ate breakfast without me... so i came out to no presents and cold pancakes]]. It wasn't until we told her we where expecting that she has been all over me! She has been trying to be my best friend and acting like she never said or did rude things to me and I hate it! She constantly hints that she needs money -- even though she has a salary position at Starbucks and i just plain want her away from me. SHe is just one guilt trip after another... **Rolls eyes**

And don't get me wrong, I LOVE my grandmother but she is dependent and addicted to me. She always acts and treats me like a little girl... like I can't do anything on my own! We recently moved 2 hours away but before that she would do "drive-bys" at my work and home... she tries to take the grandmother postition away from my mom and I want it to be special for my mom because she is so far away from me [[and it hurts my mom's feelings]]. She is over protective and over bearing. She drives me nuts... she doesn't treat any of her other grandchildren that way. If i don't talk to her at least three times a week she claims I'm dead. Not to mention that she is getting too old to be driving that far and doing other things and it worries me... like she is trying to fill a void in her own life with me. I again feel so smothered.

My boyfriend and I have always kept to ourselves and we like it that way -- because our families are so crazy we kept a healthy distance. Now that we are having this baby they are down our throats and Im worried about what will happen when the baby finally comes. His mother claims to be moving to our town and that honestly scares the hell out of me! I know we will need help when our baby arrives but im scared that they wont go away when we want or they will just show up. His mom and my grandma said when we want them to go they will but his mom has already went back on promises with the baby [[and she hasn't even been born yet]] and I want MY mom to get the grandmother expierance and i want MY grandma to relax and just enjoy visits... UGHHH. it's so stressful. What do i do?