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Is your Spouse Like mine? or what? He Keeps about everything !?

OK Here's the deal of it. My spouse seems to never throw away anything that belongs to him ! It gets on my last nerve sometimes so i am vented here and want to know if you have the same problem and what you do about it? So anyway for one, He has a real old Boat. It has been parked in our drive way for a very long time not being used ! Ok at first it was there not being used cause He had no truck to pull it with anyway. So now he has a truck so i am waiting to see when summer comes If he will actually move it or Fix it? It has flat tires and a old motor but he claims to have a trolling motor for it in the building that works. I had told him the motor was tore up and no good so then he said the trolling motor still works. well i had a friend to tell me why do you all just keep that boat there all these years, trash it ! I can't its not mine and one day along time back a guy stopped by and ask me if he would sell it but he never did! he just keeps it and said One day He's going to fix it but that day has never came yet! Another one is He has a Treadmill someone gave to him so it needed fixing the belt .so he did fix that then the Deck broke now He keeps saying he is going to fix it soon as he can order the part or get the money for the part ! problem is he bought another treadmill . its used too, so He has Two treadmills now! he has had them for awhile and the one he bought was messing up so months later he did finally fix it but said it will need that part or tare up again one day. but problem is he Puts stuff off , and I ask him why do you need Two treadmills? He said he is keeping one of them, the best one but he still keeps both as of now. He is suppose to get rid of one, I told him to keep the one he wants and get rid of the other one! but we will see when that happens! And now he has a bench in there in the same room with not enough room for all that stuff. so i said when you get something new or old you gotta get rid of something to make room for the new one! He just gets mad or ends up keeping it all. So another thing is I got another stereo for the living room a used one but it works so my old one is messed up it won't play cds it skips and other problems with it so i wanted to get rid of the old one but He wants to keep it ! what for? I ask him were you gonna put it ? he said he don't know yet! So i tell him its not worth fixing they said at the place when i called and told them what was wrong with it. They say its cheaper to buy One then to pay for repair cost! so now my new/used one works great and looks much better too but why does he want to keep the old one that's messed up? I firmly think that if its no good throw it away or if its usable give it away ! But this man he dont'even throw away old shirts! I have to clean out the closet and don't tell him If I throw away anything of his . cause He would keep it all! he had a shirt he loved that was all to pieces and he kept that thing forever! he wouldn't let me trash it. it had rips, holes,and all . well now its gone and I don't care but he was looking for it. oh i didn't throw it out he lost it or something, I wouldn't throw it out cause i knew he liked it to much. but anyway its gone now but you know He didn't need it . he has plenty more shirts that are thick for the winter. that's what he claimed that he kept it cause it was good and warm and its cold at work. but he has others ones that's just as thick or warmer then it was! I buy him heavy sweat shirts for winter so i know he has plenty and they are in good shape. so why i wonder? I get rid of my stuff i don't wear or need and give it to somebody who might need it but He won't get rid of nothing!! ok if you've read all this then you deserve a Star ! or 100 points ! Thanks !!

Update:

yeah I wondered if he was a hoarder. My outside building is full of crap ! Thats why I dont ever go out there to look in it ! its a mess. yrs. ago I cleaned it out once and then later on He junked it back up again so I said I will never clean it again, and I didn't, its his problem . but I'm trying to not let him bring junk into the house !

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Honestly...I put my husbands stuff on craigslist. "YOU WANT IT,COME GET IT!" LOL I toss his old shirts while he's at the store and honestly...he's never asked about it b/c he just forgets. lol Have someone take the boat while he's a work or something...once it's gone, it's GONE...lol And start getting all of his crap piled up and just give it to good will. Tell him you honestly just can't take it anymore. You don't want it to end in divorce but, most people who are married to a hoarder, which YOU my friend ARE, divorce them b/c they didn't realize how serious the problem was. My father in law is a hoarder and I can't STAND going to his place...it's horrible. Best of luck!!!

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    4 years ago

    You honestly shouldn't tell your husband approximately this notably on condition that he would not suspect something, and much extra notably, given which you haven't any longer carried out something incorrect. yet determine to have a communique with your 'chum' and tell him directly up which you have been so bowled over at his thought that for the period of the previous each thing you extremely did no longer comprehend a thank you to respond yet now which you have have been given had a while to think of it over, right this is your reaction: which you will in no way in a million years cheat on your husband, which you're thoroughly in love with your husband and that your loved ones potential way extra beneficial than that, however the certainty that he would gain this with such flagrant brush aside for his spouse and the effect of such habit, tells you that possibly you probably did no longer comprehend him besides as you theory you probably did. tell him which you locate his habit, beside being superb and not in a stable way superb, very disappointing, and that he's quite plenty flawed in that there is not any longer something, honestly no longer something "between us", he has mis-examine and mis-interpreted your tries at friendship yet which you're extra beneficial than happy to make sparkling that for him and that interior the destiny, while you will nevertheless be cordial with one yet another, the lunches are coming to an end. then you certainly push returned your chair, you arise, and you bypass away without looking returned. this is what I advise you do. and don't attempt that usually-woman factor the two, that's to constantly attempt to be "extreme high quality" in those circumstances. he's no longer a "extreme high quality" guy and he's extremely and maximum generally no longer your chum, neither is he your husband's chum. of course while you have been sitting there having a extreme high quality communique over soup and a sandwich, his strategies became someplace else. i'd decrease this off and don't think of two times approximately it. it extremely is difficulty with a capital T.

  • 1 decade ago

    It sounds like it is possible that he has some hoarding issues. It sounds pretty serious, he may need to see a professional about this problem.

    Source(s): My aunt is a hoarder.
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Too long.................sorry.

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