Ladies, does this sound like a good way to approach someone, or does it sound desperate & lame?

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In response to another question, a woman suggested that to a shy guy that he could try meeting women by dropping a pen near her, and then picking it up and asking if it was hers.

I thought that this manipulative attempt to jump start a conversation was too obvious, and would only get you slapped for acting sneaky & dishonest (as well as leaving you at a loss as how to keep the conversation going next after she says, "no"), but I wanted to hear your thoughts. Would this actually work on you if a shy guy tried to be smooth, or would you rather he just walked over and started talking?

a little lost · Accepted Answer

hes not manipulative lol...hes being cute...dont be so serious lol

Blue Eyed Christian · Answer

I don't like moves like that...practiced, contrived. It screams "player" and I don't like being on the receiving end of attentions from such a person.

He should just say "hi" and strike up a conversation. It gets easier the more you try it.

>Even if he sounded awkward, being honest is better than trying to be manipulative, right?

Yes. And not every woman will automatically look down on a guy or think he's a creeper just because he's a bit awkward and shy. Some of us know how that feels, being shy ourselves.

brazeal · Answer

No, in no way. It actual does not sound "needy" or "desperate" to me, it seems such as you're a being a solid buddy first on an identical time as additionally letting her know which you delight in her corporation and that she would be able to be neglected if she isn't feeling nicely sufficient to celebration Saturday. i think of that there became into no tension on your message, purely that of undertaking and which you delight in her corporation. loosen up and don't undertaking approximately it, you probably did no longer textual content cloth something needy or desperate. You sound like a advantageous, actual guy or woman and that i'm particular she's happy to have you ever in her lifestyles.

? · Answer

It may be a little lame, but I would find it amusing and probably talk to him - it would actually be pretty gutsy to do something so obvious like that, so the guy might turn out to be quite interesting.

rose · Answer

It doesn't sound like the best way to approach someone your interested in even though your shy.It seems like a desperate and lame attempt.

Melon-knee · Answer

Interesting. I guess I was right. Feels good, Ned.

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Ladies, does this sound like a good way to approach someone, or does it sound desperate & lame?

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