An ex lover wants to make amends - what can I expect?

You have no responsibility toward him but you do towards your husband and your marriage.

It's nice that you and this ex are on friendly terms and it would be nice to keep it that way if you wish. But long phone conversations with him are just leading him on and possibly making him think that he has a chance with you.

It might be best to make the next conversation rather short with you explaining that nothing more can come of your relationship with him except both of you being friends.

Good luck

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If he is in a 12 step program, he needs to make these amends as an important part of his recovery.

However, he can make them by mail, too. Tell him that as a married woman, it is not appropriate for you to be having "phone appointments" with a former lover. Keep the phone call to 15 minutes or less, or skip it entirely and tell him to e mail you his amends and that wil be your final communication in either direction.

Your husband allows these 1 hour conversations? I mean, I know your not a child, but any man that calls my house better be a long term friend or a relative. If you don't have the balls to tell him your not interested, blame it on your husband and tell him that your husband doesn't like it and you have decided to respect him and your marriage.

If he keeps calling, change your numbers, or have your husband answer and straighten him out (if this is an option)

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What's your responsibility here? NONE. Tell him point blank that you are happily married with kids and he'd do right to respect that. There are no "amends" to make.

None actually. He want to rekindle what you had. If you don't (and you shouldn't) tell him so in no uncertain terms. Hopefully you'll continue to do business with him but you better be prepared to lose that too.

Don't take his calls. It doesn't sound like there's much of a point to doing so. You don't owe him anything and his calling could be a disruption in your own marriage.