If you are married and terribly horribly strongly fell for another while your marriage was headed for divorce,?

Recognize that once upon a time, you most likely fell terribly horribly strongly for your spouse, and look how that turned out.

Infatuation is a blast, but it's only temporary. Be glad you got to enjoy the ride.

Now I know you wanted advice from someone older, but my heart breaks for you because i have been on the other end of this stick more than once. If you truly feel unloved and your not happy with your marriage, then something needs to change. If she's feeling the same way, you guys need to sit down and have one of those serious discussions. Talk about how long ago you've been feeling this, why you fell in love with each other in the first place, and all the moments of joy, all the moments of pain. Put everything on the table, and look at it. Then decide where you want it to go. You can try to get help and see marriage counselors. And if in the end there's still a void, you may want to start thinking about divorce. I hate to say that I really do, it's the worst and it should never be the decision you look at first. But if two people are better off as friends, that might be the only way for them both to be happy. So sorry you guys are going through this.

There is no easy or surefire way to forget them. You can keep your distance and focus on rebuilding your marriage. Remember that another person, especially one you fell hopelessly in love with is going to look that much more attractive if you're having marriage problems, but all relationships carry their share of problems.

Long tough road ahead of you. For starter cut off ALL form of communication with this person. Pray and perhaps seek counseling. You may never be able to forget about her (just like most exes), but at least you can learn how to suppress the memories with new memories of your wife, children, etc.... Good luck.

its a choice, only you can decide.first you would cut all ties with the person, cut out any mutual friends you might have. that's why its always best not to begin anything new when your still married. because it makes you see your spouse differently. if you know there is someone waiting in the wings i don't think you try as hard to restore the marriage.

It passes quickly when you refocus your attention where it belongs. And if the other person really loves you and respects you and knew how you felt about your wife from the get go, they will hurt, but they will step back and do a fade. (there are people like that, believe it or not!)

It will fade, and surprisingly quickly. Look at how easily a marriage can falter if not given regular attention, most of us on here have been there or thereabouts at some point.

Time and ZERO contact.

Not to mention realising that the other party had no respect for you, your marriage or your partner at the end of they day, if they TRULY loved you (as opposed to their own selfish needs) wouldnt they have steered clear of you?

Love is all about sharing and caring, is not it? Do not think of divorce. It is really tough to get a spouse.

Concentrate on your marriage and channel all of your efforts and energy into that. Keep busy.

I'm afraid it won't be easy but cold turkey is the only way!