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Looking to send a private message to someone, but their profile doesn't appear to have an email address attached.

from not having sex as much as you'd like, whats the real solution? Of course your spouse isn't going to want to have sex with someone who is all grumpy and irritable, so it only makes things worse.

and had to make it for the rest of your marriage, would you pick

a) Boring plain simple tame missionary sex 3x a week

or

b) Wild crazy porn movie grade sex that leaves you sore, but only once a week

and given no sex at all during menstrual cycles.

Its a tough call for me, on the one hand you are never really satisfied, on the other you experience frustration from going 2 weeks at a point without sex.

Feel free to explain your choice, serious adult answers only.

and they are young enough (3) that someone has to be with them 24/7, how did you (or would you) split up the time?

Her birthday is next week, and due to it being summer and kids in day camps, as well as having gone on vacation last month, i'm pretty well broke. Generally we have tended to do moderately extravagant gifts ($150+) but that won't work. The only idea i've had so far is to go out to dinner and shooting pool on her birthday, but we fairly frequently do that as a date night anyhow. Some suggestions?

oral sex from another woman but didn't have an orgasm, would you find that better or worse than if he sent pictures of his junk and talked dirty/sexted/cybered with other women?

We have President Clinton who kept his wife + job after dipping into an intern, and Congressman Weiner who lost his job (and probably wife) over weiner pics.

people concerning themselves far too much with what "should" be rather than what is? Why do people have such a hard realizing that each person is unique, each marriage is unique and any prebuilt conceptions of how it "should" work are ridiculous? Wouldn't we have a lot less questions here if people realized this?

how do you get them out of your head after you surprising find a path forwards in your marriage? I'm not having any luck, looking for any sort of help.

I didn't use to believe in soulmates or that emotional affairs (any affair that didn't have physical sex) were as bad as physical affairs. I now know that soulmates are real, and that emotional affairs can be far far worse than a physical one.

What have you all learned 10 days into this new year?

I could be violated in my prior account just as I'm heading into divorce for using the word that starts with pen and rhymes with Enis in answering a question about infidelity?