should my hubby pick up his cloths from her house, after we've reconcilled?

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My hubby and i have been separated for three months after he left me and our 4months old son to be with another woman. recently he came back and asked to reconcile. we called the woman up and he told her its over between them, and that he wants to be with me and our son. the woman told him to go collect his cloths from her house, in much furry. Is it advisable for him to go collect his stuff from her house? i told him to tell he to meet up at a neutral point but he said she cant do that (i wouldn't do that also). then i told him to leave them alone, but now i feel that if his stuff are still there, she might have hopes of them getting back together. when he'd left me, he collected all his cloths. so i think he needs to get them and cut links with her.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

she can put them outside her door in bags as you both drive by to get them, no he doesn't need to go in her house.
i hope you don't ever take him back again.

Anonymous · Answer

I would just ask someone else to do this instead of him, that would really be cutting links with her. A friend, a brother, sister, isn't there anyone else?

Now that you're back together, there are a few things you have to do to prevent this from ever happening again and that is what I would worry about, instead of the clothes. There is a free e-mail course by Dr. Frank Gunzburg that will help you with the right steps for saving your marriage. It's very good, I've read it and I recommend it to anyone in your situation.

Here it is and good luck!

http://how-to-save-marriage.org

cowboydoc · Answer

My spouse did this to me. After affair after affair she called one time after I got home from work at three A.M. and told me she would be right there. I was wondering what was going on and I knew she was out with another guy. The cops showed up. She was with them, they said a welfare check, she wanted her clothes but was afraid. I said O.K. but she had to wait there and I closed the door. I took all her clothes and tossed them over the balcony, two stories into the parking lot. Then I told her where her clothes were. She flipped, the cops smiled. They knew what was going on.

     You can ask them for a welfare check and to meet you there to prevent trouble, tell them you heard she may start trouble and your trying to prevent it.

? · Answer

Arrange a time for him to get the clothes when you can go there together.  Hang tight in the car until the deed is executed.

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