Im not sure wether i want to have children but I dont want to regret not having them and time is running out?

If you decide not to have a child of your own, you may regret it later in life. Then again, you may not. That question is impossible to answer at this point. So let’s focus on whether to have children.

First, you should not have children if you aren’t sure you want to do it. Parenting has plenty of rewards, and most people who try it enjoy it very much. However, there are enough unsatisfied parents out there to suggest that everyone should give this issue a lot of thought before taking the plunge.

Second, while you may regret not having children, you might also regret the things you were unable to do because you instead chose to have a child. Neither lifestyle is guaranteed to save you from regret. In fact, most of us will face some form of regret regarding our choices on the family front. Generally those regrets do not debilitate, and most of us deal with them just fine. But regrets are usually a part of life, and you should be aware that having a child will simply redirect them, not necessarily eliminate them.

Third, growing up in a small town has nothing to do with whether you, personally, should opt to have a child. Make the decision based on your own life and that of your husband. Don’t waste time thinking about what other people did. You don’t raise their children, and they wouldn’t be raising yours.

I took the long way around to answering your question, because in this case the process is more important than the result. I don’t know whether you should have children, and neither does anyone else. This is a big decision. Consider all the factors, then make your choice based on what you truly want to do with your life. Good luck.

his patience at 39 may be running low but the choice is yours. if u r not mother material stay on the pill. if u want kids, women have them up to 40 with no ill effects. so time is not running out on u. only ur decision with your husband. i am sorry u miscarried but sometimes that is a blessing when u consider the child may not have been right in some way. i am glad your marriage is all u could dream it to be but even in small towns u can't always meet their expectations. the question is are his kids enough for u or do u want ur own? yes they are a lot of responsibility and not for the squeamish. but still your decision. if u don't want them or to take care of them then don't have them. good luck

Consider sitting down with your husband and making a pros vs cons list. Yes, there are some immense challenges and sacrifices that come with being a parent, but there are also some wonderful rewards.

If you do not have a child naturally and you become infertile, but decide you want a child anyway, adoption is always an option! There are plenty of children out there who would love to have you as a mother.

Don't rush into anything now. Just take your time and ease into the decision.

I'm not sure what advice your really looking for.

If he already has kids your not holding him back from fatherhood

If you really don't want them, then it's not hurting anyone

You just need to decide what's more important to you, you or baby.

Personally, being a mom has surpased anything I've done or wanted to do, there's no way I'd ever change being a mom, even though that means I've sacrafice a lot

Taking my daughter to swim class has been way more fun then going out with freinds

Speaking as couples counselor/psychotherapist, I applaud your honest self-assessment that you do not want such a huge responsibility. If fact, it is the opposite of immature. Don't listen to others on this highly personal issue; go with your gut. Have you even lived your life yet before making the huge sacrifice required to be a mother?

if you are not absolutely sure do not get pregnant. especially if you live in the united states. the children have no bright future in that country.