I'm 13 and I don't want a baby.?

It is fine if you don't want children,you are not obliged to have them. You are not being selfish ,you think motherhood is not for you so it would be extremely selfish to have an unwanted child. Your friends are being selfish if they are thinking have a child so they can look after me in old age! How selfish and self centred is that. A child should be wanted for itself not for what it can do for the parents . It is true you could change your mind as you get older but equally true you may not. never let anyone tell you that you must have a child,only you can decide that

It is very hard to become a successful author but keep writing ,you will get knock backs from publishers all authors do but don't give up keep trying,keep improving your work,listen to advice you are given , try and find out from other authors what it takes to get published and work towards your dream.Who knows one day we could all be reading your books.

I think you're a teenager and right now you know what you want. That's great. Keep studying, work towards your goals you have set yourself, and don't let other people get you down or make you feel bad for your choices you make. When I was 14 a girl in my class was saying she wanted a hysterectomy when she was done school because she didn't want kids or periods or anything. I thought it was weird not to want kids, but I didn't say that to her. Now I have 4, and I saw her at the pediatrician's office, with her daughter. I remembered what she had said but didn't say anything. But things change in life and right now this is what you want. You don't know if you really will change your mind, but it shouldn't matter either way. Good luck with the book thing. I'm working on something to be published too. We can only hope. Peace.

Your young and you shouldn't even be worrying about things like that. When your older and perhaps married that's when you would make the decision to maybe have a baby. When I was 13 I was Absolutely sure I wanted to be a pediatrician now five years later I have changed my mind and perhaps in the next four years I will change my mind again.So it is true you may very well change your mind in the next few years but there is no set rule that says in order for you to live a happy productive life you have to get married have two kids and own a dog. I know plenty people (men and women) who decided not to have kids and trust and believe they are entirely happy living there lives.

I think it is fun to sit around with your girlfriends and talk about your futures but don't ever set anything in stone. Just live you life and have a ball and perhaps one day you have a baby and fall head over heels in love with him/her and everything that comes along with that baby. Or you may just be a really really awesome aunt.

Well, I get what you're saying, but you're still in your teens, and yes, maybe it's right, you may never change your mind about that. But maybe you will. You cannot see that right now, you're too young. And you really shouldn't plan babies now either. Focus on the grades in school and that kind of stuff instead, and your writing, author is a great thing to be!

Ignore your friends baby-chatting, let them talk and let them think, you don't have to be a part of it. :)

It's good that you're not thinking about it now as you're better off focusing on your education and building a future for yourself.

Of course people change their minds and although you don't think you are one of those people, at 13 you don't have the life experience to be sure. I wouldn't rule it in or out. Just see how life pans out for you.

You're fine. I didn't really want kids when I was your age, either. Fate had other plans. I have two. I'm glad I had them, they are my world, but they did require me to put my life on hold. Lots of people choose not to have kids. The world is already bursting at the seams. When the time comes, just take the proper precautions to make sure you don't have any surprises!

Good luck with your book!

I agree with Furious GIrl's answer.

Besides, nature will not let you 'not have a baby', because, the instinct to reproduce is hard wired in our genes.I do not think its wise of you to plan something against nature.

So you will definitely want a baby of your own once bou become an adult.

Good luck with your writing career and I hope you come up with some much needed good stuff for this world which is, in your own words, 'not too good of a place' to make this world a better place.

You'll change your mind.

The main thing is, it's ok if you don't want a child, it's your decision. You seem very mature for your age so you should just ignore your friends if they think you're "crazy"

If they don't respect your decision then they aren't your real friends.

May I ask why precisely you don't want any? They'd get in the way of your career? Too much of a hassle?

I think it is a good idea that you are thinking about your future and your career. Personally it is up to you if you want/don't want children. I do when I am older.. But maybe you will, Maybe you won't but it is fully up to you. It is your life:-) But your family won't be there forever, When your are in your 80's/90's most of your family won't be there.. But it is up to you. It doesn't matter what people think of you. As long as your happy, You shouldn't care about other peoples thoughts:-)

Good for you :) All you need to think about at 13 is going to school and making good grades and being kind to your friends and obeying your parents. And you don't have to want kids. Go to college, meet someone special and then decide what you want to do with the rest of your life.