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Anonymous asked in Society & CultureReligion & Spirituality · 1 decade ago

Questions about Islam (is it true?) Please can Muslims answer it?

I could be totally wrong and apologise if I am. Islam was never a big topic at my school and most things I know I read on the net or saw it on the news. As far as I am concerned, anyone can believe in what they want. For me, no one is better than another until I had a chance to get to know them (at least I try not to have too many prejudices :).

Again, I have never been in an Islamic country to learn something about the culture. However, news are full of these stories: A Muslim women gets married. She can’t choose whom she will marry, not even sure if her husband can? Their parents make the decision. So how can you say she will be loved for the rest of her life if already the wedding was without love (because they weren’t allowed to say no)? The next thing is that the wife has to do what her husband wants (lucky if she got someone nice but what if not?).

There was this story on the news, a 14 or 16 year old girl, married, had to work really hard for the family of her husband and was also beaten and abused by them. She went back to her parents and told them but they said it’s her fault if she would behave appropriate and do what she was told to do then they would treat her better. Even sons tell their mothers what they have to do, and they really have to do it. Is that what Quran says; abuse and oppress your family members?

Another story, a young Muslim women 20-22years lived in a country with western culture and she decided that she didn’t want to live by the Islamic rules anymore. She was a beautiful young lady, had friends where she lived and was liked by many people. After some time her father sent her 15 year old brother to kill her after making up a plan how to do it, and the boy killed her - I was shocked when I heard that. And the father was not even man enough to kill his own daughter himself. Is that what Quran says; kill your family members if they dare to abjure our religion and find a place where they’re happy?

I also heard that there are quite many Muslims who live a very modern lifestyle and respect human rights and treat even women equally to themselves. And if that’s the case (and I’m sure it is) then why are you unable to tell the ones who don’t respect human rights that their beliefs are wrong and that everyone has the right to be respected by others??? Is it really necessary to threaten people with death to keep them in Islam or is it some kind of satisfaction to stone someone to death every now an then?

Again, it is not my intension to offend anybody. I would appreciate it if I could get honest answers from Muslim people. Please don’t be rude since this is just a sign of immaturity and wouldn’t help to get a positive view of your religion.

Thanks!

Update:

That sounds all pretty fair to me (even though the first answer is just something copy-pasted). But why isn’t it possible to sentence these bad Muslims for their actions. And if there are certain Islamic countries or parts of countries that don’t respect what Islam says then is it for a country that has the military power, the right thing to do, to help these people? I know, war is never the answer but if you can free the people from a radical/criminal regime and give them the power to establish a government that respects human rights and doesn’t tolerate abuse and oppression?

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  • 1 decade ago
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    They have answered your question. I will answer your last question that "why isn’t it possible to sentence these bad Muslims for their actions."

    Dear Asker

    It is very complex situation. First you should know there isn't any Islamic government in the world. Second there are not all muslims like that. That is only a propaganda because they hate Islam but in Islam muslims are not allowed to tell lie like others(haters of Islam) do. These things happen only in uneducated people but governments of muslim countries don't want to educate people. They only kill muslim people who are surely innocent.

    Finally, I will tell you what non muslims say about women rights in Islam.

    The Marxist writer, Valentine M. Moghadam argues that the position of women are mostly influenced by the extent of urbanization, industrialization, proletarization and political ploys of the state managers rather than culture or intrinsic properties of Islam; Islam, per Moghadam, is neither more nor less patriarchal than other world religions especially Hinduism, Christianity and Judaism.

    Early costumes of Arab women.

    "The dowry, previously regarded as a bride-price paid to the father, became a nuptial gift retained by the wife as part of her personal property."

    Under Islamic law, marriage was no longer viewed as a "status" but rather as a "contract", in which the woman's consent was imperative. "Women were given inheritance rights in a patriarchal society that had previously restricted inheritance to male relatives." Annemarie Schimmel states that "compared to the pre-Islamic position of women, Islamic legislation meant an enormous progress; the woman has the right, at least according to the letter of the law, to administer the wealth she has brought into the family or has earned by her own work."

    William Montgomery Watt states that Muhammad, in the historical context of his time, can be seen as a figure who promoted women’s rights and improved things considerably. Watt explains: "At the time Islam began, the conditions of women were terrible - they had no right to own property, were supposed to be the property of the man, and if the man died everything went to his sons." Muhammad, however, by "instituting rights of property ownership, inheritance, education and divorce, gave women certain basic safeguards."

  • 1 decade ago

    I am not a muslim but I know quite a few and I try to understand them.

    Your question is a good one and shows the lack of education about other religions in our education system.

    There are 1.6 Billion muslims in countries around the globe there are also many different sects of Islam the same as the christian church. Yes sadly some of them do what you describe and that is shameful and repressive, this is usually more from tribal culture than the actual teachings of the Quran.

    The vast majority of Muslims are pretty much the same as everyone else in a society. Sadly as with everything it is the insane wackjobs that gain the attention.

    May I suggest you visit a Mosque or Islamic center and ask your questions there, Muslims are very hospitable people on the whole and I am sure you would be welcomed and treated with respect.

    I am an an atheist who believes in people not religion. Most people are good regardless of their beliefs.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Every muslim has the choice to marry who they want,i personally have the choice as well as many others but there is the poor countries and families sell their daughters to get money to support the family this is where you got the early marriage from.i know it still happens today but for a reason.Stoning to death is for prostetutes not every woman and it only takes place if there are witnesses and the person confesses.I am 15 and i support my religion for me its not about what i hear from the media or what my family tells me or what the majority say.I do my own research and by looking at your research its wrong if you really wan to find out about islam read the quran and the hadith then you will really get to know the real islam.Did you choose your religion because of the poeple and family or your own belief

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    There are good and bad people in this world. These stories of muslim people clearly shows that they are bad muslims and are not following the real way of Islam. The Quran never says beat or oppress your family and wives. The muslims that do that are idiots and not true muslims. In fact the Quran says be good to your women and to treat them as equals. Also before prophet Muhammed's death the last thing he said was be kind gentle and caring to your women. The muslims that treat their wives like crap are bad muslims and bad people. And women do have their rights they can sue their husbands if they don't divorce them.

    Peace.

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  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    I can see where you are going with this question, I mean a guy like you who knows so much about Christianity , based on your advices you give to other Christians, I read your answers. I think it will be wasting time to tell you all about it, cause no matter what I tell you, you are just going to giving an opportunity to all the hatters to attack the Muslim religion. and this is exactly what you are doing . Brian: I apologies if I offend you, I just being getting attack by people who only hate Islam by it's name with out knowing the Real meaning of Islam. I have to agree with daliaadel, what she stayed about Islam is right.

  • Jonny
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    1 decade ago

    Both Woman and Children have rights in Islam. In Islamic society it is common to see young women getting married when their young. I do believe some cultures also practice un Islamic rituals. Children, according to Islamic law, have various rights. One of these is the right to be properly brought up, raised, and educated. Islam encourages children to be brought up well because it is the responsibility of an adult to raise his child to become a moral and ethical adult. Children must also be treated equally. When giving financial gifts they should all be the same amount and there should be no preference among them. Children are even permitted to take moderately from their parent’s wealth to sustain themselves if the parent declines to give them proper funds for living. A child is also not allowed to get hit in the face or hit by anything larger than a pencil. While it is true that he married a girl that was at the age of nine that does not constitute pedophilia. Historically, the age at which a girl was considered ready to be married has been puberty. This was the case in Biblical times, and is still used today to determine the age of marriage in many parts of the world. This was part of the norm and is not something that Islam invented. The girl he got married to had reached puberty 3 years before marriage. It is upon reaching the age of puberty that a person, man or woman, becomes legally responsible for their actions under Islamic law. At this point, they are allowed to make their own decisions and are held accountable for their actions. It should also be mentioned that in Islam, it is unlawful to force someone to marry someone that they do not want to marry. There is no indication that the society at that time criticized this marriage due to the girl’s young age. On the contrary, the marriage was encouraged by the girl’s family and was welcomed by the community at large. The image of a woman wearing a veil from head to toe, a woman who gets unfair justice or a woman who is not allowed to drive is an all too familiar notion when it comes to women treatment in Islam. And while there are Muslim countries in the world that do implement many harsh rulings against women, this should not be portrayed as Islamic law. Many of these countries have cultural differences that go against the teachings of Islam. It should be noted that during pre-Islam Arabia women were used for fornication only and had no independence. The birth of a daughter in a family was considered humiliating and the practice of female infanticide was uncontrolled. When Islam came to being, verses in the Quran condemned the practice of female infanticide. Islam gave back many human rights to the woman and Muhammad(s) was even reported saying that “women are the twin halves of men.” A Muslim woman is allowed to reject and accept any suitor for marriage and has the right to seek divorce. There is nothing in Islam that forbids a Muslim woman from exiting her house and is allowed to drive. Also in regards to education, a woman is obligated to seek knowledge and it is considered a sin if she refuses.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Glad you asked.Women in Islam have complete right to chose their husband and so do men.I live in Islamic state and many friends of mine live in different Islamic state and there is nothing such about marriage.Men and Women chose their own life partners.No Quran has given NO right to anyone to abuse any family member.Your news is totally fake.Again your news is completely WRONG.WRONG and LIES.Please don't see the fake Islam of media.Read Quran to know Islam.See the link below about women rights in Islam:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zQY4PEo7kdQ&playnex...

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sCba2Soobko

    Request:Please read the Quran to know Islam rather then believing in fake Islam of media.

  • 1 decade ago

    Thank you for asking me about my religion.

    Before i began to answer your question, i would like to state two important things:

    1. As Muslims we cannot lie about anything, especially about our religion.

    2. We have original recorded sources of our religion:

    A) The Quran

    http://www.quranexplorer.com/

    B) Teachings of Muhammad - the Authentic saying or Sunnah

    http://www.quranexplorer.com/hadith/english/index....

    This is a unique part of Islam, not available in any other ancient religions.

    Muslims submit and surrender their will and desires to the will and the laws of the Creator. By referring to, "The Creator", Muslims are talking about "Allah."

    "Allah" simply means "The God" in Arabic.

    =============

    Do understand ONE basic thing:

    ISLAM is NOT what MUSLIMS DO

    ISLAM is what muslims MUST do.

    Q1: In a truely Islamic society women have the following rights in Islam:

    1. The right and duty to obtain education.

    2. The right to have their own independent property.

    3. The right to work to earn money if they need it or want it.

    4. Equality of reward for equal deeds.

    5. The right to express their opinion and be heard.

    6. The right to provisions from the husband for all her needs and more.

    7. The right to negotiate marriage terms of her choice.

    8. The right to obtain divorce from her husband, even on the grounds that she simply can't stand him. (pls note that God deeply frowns upon divorce as a solution unless there is hardly any other alternative but it does not mean that men have more right to divorce their wives than women do.)

    9. The right to keep all her own money (she is not responsible to maintain any relations).

    10. The right to get sexual satisfaction from her husband.

    11. custody of their children after divorce.

    12. to refuse any marriage that does not please them

    and more...

    Here is an article taken from a speech which details some of these rights: Ideals and role models for women in Islam http://www.themodernreligion.com/women/w_roles_ide...

    Q2: (regarding honor killings)

    Islamic Stoning Muslim Honor Killings

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=enTXLxZ1kRQ

    does Islam really order to kill females in the name of honor?

    http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?pagen...

    http://www.islamawareness.net/HonourKilling/

    Source(s): As for ur third question, i hope the following link gives a clear insight into the issue: Lashing, stoning, mutilating: Islamic law is barbaric and outdated. Defend the case of Islam. by Abdullah Mohammed http://www.jannah.org/morearticles/4.html please post ur questions in : society and culture-->> holidays -->> ramadan section. i know u have a lot of questions more, and i would request u to visit the local mosque and ask the muslim scholar or imam regarding these matters. HOpe i didn't offend anyone.
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