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Am a woman who goes to bars, need way to let men know am not tolerating disrespect?

Don't understand what's going on but lately even the older men I've been meeting are anything but gentlemen. Understand that I do frequent bars and nightclubs but that does not mean that I'm looking to pick someone up!! I love the game of pool (am on league) and I love to dance and listen to live, local music. I'd be open to getting to know someone if they approached me respectfully. Not at all interested in completely wasted, vulgar mouthed, men who have no clue how to talk to or treat a lady.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I find this a very easy answer...The moment something disrespectful comes out of their mouth? You give them a steely-eyed look, you stop dead in your tracks, you tell them thanks for the dance/drink, but your vulgarity sickens me and you turn on your heel and walk away like a BIG girl.

    It is my dear, that simple and works like a charm. It's called: having a BACKBONE!

    Grace

  • Sadly, bars are pretty much meat markets. Your best bet would be to go with a group, you are less likely to be approached if you are with friends.

    Or, choose places that are more like pool halls and less like dance clubs. The people who go to play pool aren't there hoping to get lucky, they are going to play. A lot of people go to bars hoping to pick someone up, add alcohol and good judgment goes out the window. That is when you have men coming up saying inappropriate things to you. They lack the good judgment to say something that isn't offensive, they lost it a couple drinks ago.

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    this is an identical clarification why black human beings could be racist to white human beings and no person will say something. i think of this is only only because of the fact adult men disrespecting women has this enormous taboo approximately it what with feminists and all and human beings do no longer see any injury in women get their own back at adult men, as a thank you to communicate. i think of somebody disrespecting every physique, be it somebody from a different race, custom, gender, and so on. is incorrect and could be frowned upon, yet regrettably, our society has some exceedingly tousled morals imho.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    You have every right to go and enjoy a game of pool and have fun with your friends! Just don't smack them upside the head because that is jail time. Just walk away and if they follow you, go to the bartender and that is his job to keep those assholes under control and escort you to your car or best a cab so you are safe. If you don't have a date, go with a group of girlfriends!

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  • 1 decade ago

    Am a man that goes to the zoo but hates animals! Do you see how strange that sounds? That's why my right eye brow is a bit higher than my left after reading this question.

  • 1 decade ago

    Men don't go to bars and pool halls to meet ladies. They go looking to score. If you can't handle it, then stay out of them, or go with a date.

  • 1 decade ago

    Just give them a disgusted look, say no thanks, and turn your back to them. It's hard to thin the losers out since you can't wear a shirt that says you won't tolerate their rudeness. They will still come but it will get your point across eventually and perhaps other guys who see it will realize that you aren't there for that.

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    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    The best way to let me u will not tolerate rudeness is to turn your head away and walk away. Trust me they will get the drift.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Change the company you keep. If you hang around alone in a bar that's what happens.

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