how do cope when your elderly mum needs care?

You take care of her just like you take care of your kids and the way your mom took care of you..=)

It can be very difficult to deal with. I know all about it first hand. The hardest part is that you have to "parent your parents" which is not easy to do.

Please be sure you reach out to local organizations that help elders (senior centers, council on aging) and many of these groups also have support groups for family members. If necessary, you may want to see a counselor or therapist to help you deal with this. You need to take care of yourself as well.

Unless you've been through it, you don't know how hard it is. It's really a full time job with no pay, but can be rewarding as well.

Unfortunately I no longer have an elderly mum to care for.

You could do like my daughter and just not care.She couldn't even be bothered to find out how I was faring during cyclone Yasi,while my nieces kept in constant touch with me until the power and phone went out.That hurt!

i could desire to accept as true with the previous guy or woman approximately leaving your mom interior the nursing homestead. you're able to prefer somebody there around the clock.. for all time.besides the fact that if its a couple of minutes on my own. you could't do this. they could bypass with the aid of episodes and do issues that are hazardous. it may become tense which you will boot because of fact while their techniques starts to bypass.. It relatively does. this is unhappy relatively. no longer recognizing the place they are, their babies, pals. Whailing.. Bitterness. consistent with hazard its nevertheless new to you yet this occurs. you could bypass into debt attempting to get all the kit needed to your mom. interior the nursing homestead you will bypass to as usually as you could bringing small issues to attempt and make her experience extra comfortable. you mustn't experience like your giving up. she could have a scientific workforce handy giving her something that she merely demands. desire this permits.

It's important to remember to take care of yourself. If you don't have family to help and give you a break, see if there are any non-profits in your area that can help you out.

Sometimes it can get really hard. I sometimes resented the time I had to care for my mother. I have two older sisters and three brothers, I still think they could have done more. I feel bad now for feeling resentful but she is gone now and I wish I could do even just one more thing for her.

Robyn, you have but one mother....good or bad.

My mom died of cancer and I took her into my home and cared for her. I gave back to her the love she gave me. It is easier to care for parents when you consider all they gave up for us.

just think if you were in her shoes would you want some loving person to help you ,,think about it

I do alot of praying .