A Question for Working Wives and or Moms?

You would think. Or common sense should tell the couple that everything is now 50/50. Its only fair. Really. If both work, both should share the chores and child care.

I go to school and I work about part-time (about 15 hours a week). I would not say that my husband and I split everything EVENLY, but we do what works for us. I actually enjoy cooking and keeping the house clean. My husband takes care of all the outside work and anything the cars need. However, if we see that something needs to be done, we don't leave it for the other. If he tracked mud in, he would go ahead and clean it, just like I would pick up a spill on the porch if I noticed it.

If a husband refuses to help at all, I would say the woman "puts up" with it because you can't just NOT clean the house. Especially if you have kids. You can't just leave all the dishes dirty or go without clean clothes.

We both work 45-50 hours a week. We split the household chores almost down the middle. As in I haven't done a load of laundry in a decade, I don't vacuum, those are a few of the ones he takes. I do dishes though, he hates those as much as I hate laundry. I do more cooking than him, but I like cooking. He does all the grilling and we grill our meat at least 3 or 4 days a week, so I am just doing side dishes then. He does just as much with our son as I do. He also does a lot for my mom (my mother is wheelchair bound and lives with us) as well, everything from helping cut her food to helping her around.

We are pretty even. We both consider our marriage a partnership.

We split the work according to who's available and what they're doing. If I'm home I go through the house and pick up any clothes and start the washer. The dishes in the sink, the same way. I always started supper for the kids, my wife came home later. We worked together around the house and helped each other as much as possible. We've been married for 53 years now.

I work part time..but every day. I do most of the household stuff during the week, but my husband is not adverse to getting out the vacum cleaner on the weekend. He also hangs up washing..and he and my teenage son generally load the dishwasher in the evenings as well. It all gets done somehow.

Yes, we do split the household chores and there are never any disagreements about it. I married a fully functioning man.

Childcare is also split fairly. Why would I want a guy around that didn't wish to spend time with his son teaching him and guiding him into a good man?

My husband and I had this talk before we married, I agreed that when we had kids I would stay home and be a mom and housewife when the kids are grown I will attempt to go back to work, I say attempt because someone has gotten used to having me home, used to getting his back rubbed every night, hot dinners ready when he gets home from work and a spotless house....I can't give 100% to everything once I go back to work, somethings got to give. Right now my entire job is my family, house and volunteering. My husband is typical man and he will do house work but it's rare.

That is a situation that you have to work out with your own husband.

I do not work but I do go to school. I do all the laundry and cooking Monday through Friday.

When he is off of work he helps but if things don't get done he doesn't complain he knows how hard it is to take care of three kids and got to school full time.