my girlfriends mother wants to have her wedding the same week as ours?

I just recommend to pick another date.. Because of course.. its the first time for you and your girlfriend, and WEDDING.... so you must want something that special for yourselves..not for other though.. Maybe you will feel uneasy to your girlfriends mother.. but let's ask her if their position switch with yours.. what's their opinion.. consult with patience.. i hope your girlfriend mother will understand.. ^_^ Good luck..

Andrew, you have no control over this so stressing is pointless.

I have a very STRONG feeling that if it comes down to a wedding guest who is invited to both, they would be more likely to give you & your fiancee a nice gift while the MIL gets a token gift, if any at all after all, this is a second marriage for an older woman......at least that is what I would do if invited to both.....

and it will only affect your fiancee's family, not YOURS...so at least HALF of your guest list is safe from a conflict of interests.

It's NOT really fair, even tho your MIL can marry any day she wishes except on your wedding day....why she is doing this I haven't a clue.....could be she wants to married by the time her daughter's wedding comes around but there are other alternatives than this....

As far as her wedding taking your time and concentration away from yours....uh-uh. YOUR wedding is YOUR first priority, NOT her wedding so if it comes to whose wedding you concentrate on, why, you concentrate on YOURS and sorry, MOM....ours gets first dibs with us and maybe you should have thought of that before you put yours in competition with ours, which is what you have done if you look at it OBJECTIVELY.....

if you CAN...move the date you two get married and do NOT inform Mom until it's too late to do anything about her date....or move it and tell her every time she moves her date, you will move yours...or you will just go ahead and elope ( a bluff ) and set up a wedding celebration but not until AFTER hers has occured....might make her back off.

Talk to her

Is she planning a big wedding?

Or is she planning a small wedding when her family is in town?

Could that be what she was thinking?

You need to know what she is thinking for sure

I think if she is planning a big wedding you are right

If she is planning a small wedding with a few people that she think is saving money on travel for those people

You both need to talk to her

See what she is thinking

If you do not like what she is thinking, explain why you would like to have her move the date

Do not say that you think the gifts will be cheap, that is not a good reason

Wanting the day to be about the two of you is

Ask and she what she is thinking

Then explain to her

I think your feelings are reasonable. You can't make her changer her wedding date, but you can change yours if the invitations haven't gone out. I would even be willing to lose some deposits if I were you. You are right that if there are two weddings in a family in one week, yours is not going to seem as special and your guests are going to feel a bit tired of weddings.

Your future mother-in-law is being a real pill. Your girlfriend should sit her down and tell her that her having her wedding the same week is like stealing your thunder and that it hurts both of your feelings. She should ask her to change her date. Hopefully she will listen to reason and you won't have to change your date.

Although I do understand how you feel about getting perhaps substandard gifts due to the financial restraints of wedding guests attending two weddings within a week. However, if you really thought about it, the wedding is about the marriage, not what you can get out of the guests.

The mother is very inconsiderate, for sure. There is no question or doubt with that. But, there is nothing you can do other than change your wedding date.

Life throws you curve balls. You can catch the fly ball or let it hit you in the face. You choose.

This is something you need to sit down and talk to each other about. Just say, "We think it would be best if we had 2 a gap between the weddings" or something along those lines and state the reason for wedding gifts and all that. I know you aren't trying to be rude but you want an experience to yourself and it seems like your fiance's mom is intruding on it. Just approach them about it and tell them how you two feel. and politely ask if they could move their date.

i ponder whether your sister has embraced her husband's family contributors by using fact maximum of your loved ones reflects the stunning selfishness which you're exhibiting right here. I understand your wedding ceremony is significant, and could be seen as the two significant to her sister in regulation's. in spite of the undeniable fact that, you look to have glossed over the miscarriage as though it became a trifling footnote on your significant experience, instead of a worrying and grief-worth experience on your sister and her husband's existence. It became candy of her to ask you techniques you could experience if she became pregnant on your wedding ceremony day. Very considerate and exhibits a point of attention which you have not shown her. in spite of the undeniable fact that, i discover it slightly controlling and destructive that her mom in regulation has stated dismissively, "nicely the outfits can not be set unfastened" for her sister in regulation's wedding ceremony. How does she be attentive to, and why ought to the bridal save not order a maternity gown interior the comparable or a coordinating coloration on your sister if choose be. Her remark is the only factor retaining me back from insisting that perhaps she has found a point of affection and attention along with her in-rules that she by no skill had in her "very own" family contributors. family contributors is whom you choose on.

you need to make it clear to her mother that the focus of each wedding is the bride and groom, and you would both be robbed of the focus you're due if you get married in the same week. also all the guests would have to make a choice on which wedding to attend, because they will not bother with both. since you had your date chosen first, her mother must choose another date in another month to get married. I mean my mother took over my wedding as if it were her own but this is nuts.

Your gf needs to have a very serious talk with her Mother, I mean bring out the tears, I'm going to cancel my wedding (threat) anyway, pull out the big guns whatever you have to do to get her to change her mind. Talk to her bf, her sisters, brothers, good friends and ask them if they will tell her the "uncouthness" of this.

Proving that you can be a mother but still act like a child.

While you really only get just one day, her mother's actions are inappropriate. She should know better and you're right to feel cheated.

Are you open to changing your date? Then only disclose it to her when the invitations get sent out.