To lala lala regarding bf?

That's not the attitude to have about guys. I'm saying that IF you find you can't trust him, then it's better for the both of you that you break up. But if you find that you can believe what he says, then great, stick with it. It's for your judgement to decide, and you shouldn't be coming on here asking for exactly what we would say because we simply don't know everything.

The most important point you should've taken away from what I said was to be calm throughout the entire ordeal, that he should be given a proper and fair chance to explain, and then you should judge for yourself whether or not you can trust him.

My message was definitely not that 'all men are pigs'., but it could be 'everyone makes stupid mistakes". This one's your call as to whether or not you want to forgive him and keep the relationship going or end it. I was just steeling you towards the harder; even if two people love each other and are right for each other, there are still times in this world where that's not enough. So even if he says he loves you, you can't let that get in the way of your happiness (and ultimately his happiness too; he wouldn't be happy being in a relationship where he wasn't trusted).