17 weeks pregnant and feeling alone?

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and useless. I'm not depressed, (as I've had that before and this is not even similar) I've just been sick since about 5 weeks along, which is how I found out. And since I'm young, at only 22, most of my friends seemed to have forgotten about me. They still text, but they're all busy partying and I'm at home. My fiance is great, he knows i'm sick a lot of doesn't really press me to do anything I don't want to, but I know he get's frustrated when I don't want to be intimate or when I'm so tired I can't seem to keep my eyes open. 
I'm also crabby a lot, though I try not to be, but usually it's because I feel completely useless. I tried to do dishes and got sick because of the smell of the dish soap, and I do laundry but I can't find the energy to do more than wash, dry and fold before I feel completely worn out. We have my fiance's kids every weekend and it feels like they forget how to pick up after themselves as soon as they step through our doors. My fiance says he's excited about the baby but it doesn't seem as real to him as it does to me, maybe that's because he's not the one carrying it? I don't know. He doesn't seem enthused when he talks about the baby, and he says he wants a girl so i'm worried (unnecessarily) about how he'll take it if it's a boy.
I should also mention that I work 40 hours a week as a para educator for severely disabled children and I'm going to school full time with 16 credit hours at night. 
I just feel like I have no friends who understand and that I can't really do anything for anyone at the moment. Has anyone else ever felt like this and does anyone have any advice? Like I said, I'm know i'm not depressed, just kind of down. Any suggestions?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You'll be okay.  My husband said he wanted a boy at first too...we have a 10 month old daughter and he's a great father and loves his little girl. He treats her like a princess. Your fiance will love and accept the child regardless of the sex, so don't even worry about that.  As for dishes, I was sick throughout my entire pregnancy and needless to say, dishes and laundry piled up, but I did get it done. I would do dishes a little at a time and use a soap that didn't have a strong smell. I'm not sure what kind it was, but I think it was an unscented kind they carried at my local walmart. Just try that or talk your fiance into getting you a dishwasher ;-) It also wouldn't hurt if your fiance helped with household duties as well since you're working and going to school. He could do some laundry or dishes. It's not fair that it's all on you (I just did it all myself because I wasn't working and my husband was, so it was fair for me to do it)... as for laundry, you could just do smaller loads more often or look for something unscented. I know they do sell a bunch of unscented stuff since a lot of people are sensitive to perfumes and dyes.

You have your hands full with work and school. Are you planning on doing both after the baby comes?  It'd be way too much for you, I think, especially with a new baby and the sleep deprivation that comes along with it.  


Now, get the fiance to help out around the house, take a nice long nap, and take things one at a time. Being pregnant sucks :-(

Martha C · Answer

i think that you should just lay down and engoy yourself my sister is going through the same thing as you are its because you cant do nothing because your pregnant their just the simptoms you get during the pregnancy i say you leave school for know and go back when the baby is born[:

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