Should I give my friend my award that was supposed to be half his?

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Should I give my friend my award that was supposed to be half his?
There's this senior boy at school. He's really nice and we're friends. Anyway yesterday a new boy transferred to my school. We were talking and the new boy met my friend, and he was like, "you look really familiar", and that there was a boy that went to the school he transferred from that left at the end of their 8th grade year. Then later another friend was telling me that the new kid said that there was a person with the exact same name that left at the end of 8th grade because he got a girl pregnant at 14. My friend came to school at the beginning of freshman year. She was telling me this and he walked into the class as she was saying it and had a really pissed off look on his face and left the room and probably school. 

After school I went over to his house and he was outside with this toddler. I asked him if that was who I think it is. He told me that it was his daughter and that it was true that at 14 he got a girl pregnant and left because everyone found out about it and wouldn't leave him alone about it and transferred where no one knew about his daughter. 

We were supposed to accept a basketball and football honours award together but he called me and told me that he got his half of the award taken away because they found out that he became a father at 14, and they think that giving him the award would influence teen pregnancy.

At the awards ceremony I want to give him my award that was suppossed to be half his, because I think he deserves it more then I do. He's been through a lot and goes to school, make good grades, play sports and take care of his daughter. I think that's a role model for me and others. Not because of a mistake he made 4 years ago but that he continued on and accomplished a lot. 

I really want to give him my award tonight, because he deserves it a lot more. Would that be bad if I gave it to him tonight?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Depends. Are you going to do it publicly or privately?   If you do it privately, I see no problem at all.  It's a beautiful gesture of friendship. 

If you do it publicly, be prepared for some backlash, and it will be directed at both of you.  For all you know, they could take the award away from you as well.  You should talk to him first. If both of you are prepared to handle the consequences, then do it proudly.  It will be a political gesture, but one that I think is justified. Taking the award away on the basis of his parental status is discriminatory.  It's just plain wrong.  You will be standing up for the right thing, but you will also be putting him in the spotlight. Make sure he is OK with that before you do so.

Cassy · Answer

I don't think it'd be BAD. I think it's crazy that these people decided to take away something as trifling as a sports award (I mean trifling in the grander scheme of things, obviously it's pretty cool) because they don't approve of this kid's life. How stupid do they think teenagers are? Like they'll look at him and say, "Wow! Maybe if I get pregnant/get someone pregnant, I'll get a sports award too!" I think it's great that this kid has managed to be so successful considering what he's been through, and that deserves some kind of award. 

I think your idea is a nice gesture, but it may put this kid in a spotlight when right now he's just trying to fit in. It's something you might want to clear with him first. Another option is to just discuss your feelings with people giving the award before-hand, or just refuse the award yourself. Whatever you end up doing, I think it is right to express your opinion about this and show some support for this guy, because obviously he could use some right now.

? · Answer

Do whatever you want but I would be raising hell if I were that dude. How ridiculous. I fail to see how giving someone an award for a sport would even come close to translating that teen pregnancy is okay... How does that even make any sense?

rudicil · Answer

mutually as i amend it and think of you're suitable, its who he's now, i could be annoying what the adults could do, for this reason frankly from a greater logical its the tip that concerns i could settle for it if i so needed and supply him the funds after till his kinfolk is easily off so the funds wont make a difference too his toddler and subject, wherein case choose for the greater thought case of issues and spot the way it is going

? · Answer

Of course it wouldn't be wrong! He deserves it.

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