Husband has been watching porn?

Like lots of women I think you view porn wrong. It isn't something that reflects on you in any way, nor does he prefer it to you. Email me if you want to chat about it.

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stop judging for a moment start listening, go to a couples councilor and make sure both are honest and not just telling the other what they want to hear, that wont solve the problem of potentiall different views and values

realise for some this is no different then watching any other movie, so its like your bf watching pirates of the carbien and comenting kiera knightly looks good, doesnt mean he is going to run of and ask her to marry him

if you are preasuring him he may told you what he think you want to hear, without really meaning it, so be sure he really want to stop, and you dont have a difference of mind before expecting him to drop it dead, because it takes two too tango and these are things that belongs under the debate about limits in relationship...that you have Before you get married..to avoid issues like this

if he truly want to stop then toss everything out, use a parental filter that only you know the password of that blocks such sites, and agree he can come talk too you when he feel the need to do it instead of going behind your back

however that will only work if he really do agree with you, and want to do this, if not then you two need to sit down talk it through, reach common ground and understanding, or this will keep coming between you with either both feeling badly treated, or either you feeling rejected, or him feeling surpressed having to change his ways for you without a say

and guess what then you will hold it against the other whenever you fight in the future, and you will tack other such things on the list, and everytime you disagree the list will be longer of things you resent the other for...and eventually both will be misserable and you got a failed marriage on your hand

the key to a good marriage is communication and compromising...when the ground to do that lack, its time to give it up and toss in the towel, which is why important life views, values and choices should be debated before commiting to marriage

You need to understand why he watches it. He is a grown man that wants to watch porn. Why does he have to stop because you object? You make him feel shame for doing so and it should not be like that. He should not have to worry about getting "caught" Grown men can watch videos. He is not dark or a stranger. He is a man. He was not putting on an act either. You do not want him watching it because of your self esteem issues. Is that fair? Porn is not about you, your body or your sex life. It is not even about the girls in the videos. It is about the sex. I am a happily married woman with an awesome sex life and we view porn sometimes.

Sounds like he might have a problem he should seek help for IF he truly WANTS to stop doing this but cannot seem to do so on his own.

It can become an addiction.

So 1st find out if this really truly is something he doesn't like about himself and wants to stop or not,and he needs to be extremely honest with you and himself.

Then seek counseling either as a couple and/or him privately for this possible addiction.

If however he is only occasionally viewing porn and your sex life with him is good,then maybe find a way to incorporate his porn viewing into your sex life. It can be fun for both of you.

Men are visual creatures, and so long as he is not sneaking around viewing it or viewing it obsessively, or his viewing it keeps him from being sexual with you..it is normal.

Nearly every man in the world watches it married or not, and plenty of women too!

The only time its a problem is if its replacing you or interfering in his life (possible sex addiction)

Does he really feel its disgusting or is he telling you what he thinks you want to hear? why not find something you can watch together, a sexy film if not porn?

No , take every thing in a positive way. If he is seeing porn means he is interested in it, This may be a phobia . It will give a satisfaction in the beginning. In due course he may be satiated and come back .If you insist against that he may get otherwise, every body is an individual firs and then wife or husband. so they may be having their own interest in things.

it is barely a minor issue interior the grand scheme of issues, a tiny blip on the radar. in actuality, you're particularly small to be bringing it up. see you later as he's staring at short movies on mini-DVDs it truly is in all probability no longer a controversy in any respect. It in all probability makes him experience like a great guy. provide him a splash time to artwork his way via this. in short; do no longer hardship approximately it. it is below no longer something.

Oh God another one! Women get sex toys and watch erotica plus reading it and I have yet to see a single man complain about it! I am going to watch my soap soon in the kitchen and they are very sexy. My husband just laughs and thinks they are cute. My husband came downstairs to see me watching a naughty movie about porn stars that was funny. I was eating popcorn and he thought it was a funny movie. Porn stars that become zombies. It was hilarious!

As long as he would prefer you to it, there should be no problem. It's no different than watching a romantic movie or reading a romantic book. It's fantasy and has absolutely nothing to do with you or your relationship.

Now, if he is doing that and neglecting other aspects of his life, then you have a problem.

The majority of normal men watch/look at porn.

Women who freak out over it are the problem.

They are pictures God Damn it ! 2 dimensional images . Are you really so insecure that you feel you have to compete with pictures ?