Asperger's trouble, any advice?

When my son with Aspergers was in high school he was involved in a social sills group. All the guys in the group were students with ASD. The Autism Specialist was involved and so was a special ed teacher. They met once a week. My son became friends with a few of the guys and they are still friends. You might want to see if your school offers a program like this. It was really helpful for my son.

When I was in high school, there wasn't even really much known about asperger's. I am self diagnosed, but pretty dang sure I'm an aspie, just waiting to find a doc that specializes when I get insurance. I was definitely the "weird" kid.... but looking back, that wasn't too bad. I didn't get caught up with the cliques and their drama. I had a few friends, good ones, and they are all still in my life today. I would take that any day over being the "cool" kid. The cool kids aren't friends with each other anymore, are getting divorces and going to jail, things like that. Me and my friends are having coffee, going to movies, and being "cool" LOL Just try to remember, regardless of what kids there say that it's OK to be different. Aspies are some of the coolest people ever if they have a chance. Don't let anyone bully you, and don't let them make you think YOU'RE the problem, because they are. I'm so happy you actually know what's different about you, I didn't even know what AS was until after I graduated and moved out in the real world LOL Talk about fun high school days LOL. I got every diagnosis from ADD to depression to schizoaffective to antisocial to ODD to borderline :P None ever fit. I'm happy knowing who I am today, and have pride in my uniqueness because the ones who really love me, think my personality rocks LOL Good luck, hun.

Here are a few tips:

1. Join activities you're interested in. They can be a good way to meet people and make friends. Even if you don't make friends through them, extracurriculars will help you get scholarships, college acceptance, and maybe even a job. But don't take on more than you can handle, or you risk burning out.

2. Don't try to be someone you're not. Trust me, it's not worth it. Being yourself means that the friends you make actually like and accept you for who you are, not for what you present to the world.

3. If you have sensory issues, things like the cafeteria and pep rallies may be painful. Look for alternative places to eat lunch or go during noisy events. Talk to the administration if you need to. If the hallways are too chaotic, find less crowded routes. Don't force yourself to put up with sensory overload just so you can appear more normal.

4. Cut yourself some slack. Asperger's means you have legitimate differences and challenges. It doesn't make you any better or worse than other people, even if most people don't struggle with the same things you do. Being kind to yourself will help you deal with things like social errors.

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These are going to be hard years, but probably not as bad as middle school. Once your class gets to know you, they'll appreciate you more (this depends on how large your high school class is), and laugh less. Find some nerdy friends, hang out with them, play video games, become introverted, all that good stuff. Remember to become friendly with all of your teachers.

if i understand aspergers correctly, it is a stress type disease and if that is the case try to stay calm. not everything everyone tells u is true so think about how to handle each situation before u get upset over it and can't function. sorry u have it. hope this helps. talk to your doctor, mom and dad about it never be afraid to ask them questions.