What do you do when the thrill is gone?

Don't expect that many years together are going to be the same or mean the same. You're going to go through phases in your relationship and those phases are going to need new rules and new parameters, but it doesn't mean you think that you both are done for just because the initial thrills are. Please don't give up. Seek outside guidance from a counselor or an encounter. Look for new things to admire and respect in each other.

Look, I heard of this radical type of marriage therapy once that should only be conducted by an experienced counselor, but this is what happened. They had a married couple who'd had some disappointments. First, they stood in opposite corners of a room and out loud shouted back and forth, one after the other things that bugged them about their spouse. In a few minutes they were furious at each other. Then the counselor had them stop. Then they were ordered to shout out loud just as loud things they admired about each other. In a few minutes they were in each others arms in the middle of the room. How you approach your relationship is of tantamount importance. Don't give up.

We have been married 44 yrs. Most of our sex has been the fun playful kind, not the music candlelight kind. We have always loved and enjoyed sex, but it took some work and imagination. Think outside the bedroom. Next time you take a shower, wear just the towel around the house for a while. See how long it takes before he pulls it off. My wife wears just a Tshirt that comes to mid butt. (drives me crazy) cook breakfast in just panties on a day that he goes to work (or golfing, fishing, etc). He will think about that all day. On a day when he is home, do the same, then sit on his lap and feed him his breakfast. Snuggle up on the couch when he is watching TV, then start unbuttoning something on you or on him. Have a naked video night where you both sit naked on the couch, popcorn and drinks, and watch something you like (doesn't have to be porn). Have naked breakfast on Saturday mornings. Don't forget car sex. Scout out a place when you are alone, then one night when you are driving home, say, "Turn here." and guide him to the spot.. Pull out some battery powered candles for the dashboard. We had a book called "101 sexual positions" and a jar with pieces of paper numbered 1 to 101. We would pick a number and try that position. Have sex in every room, on, under, or beside every piece of furniture. Try sex on the stairs. After you have done a few of these, challenge him to come up with something. But most of all HAVE FUN!!!!

Depends on what the thrill is gone from.

I suggest that you reevaluate your ideas about what a marriage is. It's not about the "thrill," but about taking on the world as a team. You're partners, companions, friends, and allies. Yes, the passion will wax and wane, but you have to remember why you married him in the first place. Was it because you thought he was hot or because you wanted to spend your life with him, good or bad? Because I doubt your vows mentioned much in the way of hotness, passion, or sex.

If you love the person and want to stay in the relationship. Then you have to create new excitement in the relationship. Instead of doing the same old thing day in and day out. Do something different.

Find a way to get it back. make the effort

Hey Cindy Loo:

Girl you just use your "IMAGINATION!" There is nothing wrong with a little role playing and being someone's "FANTASY!"

So get creative and bring back your "SEXY!" Whoever it is, just "BRING IT BACK!"

I hope this helped, take care!:)

wait awhile do something else then look up a different website and start up again

eat

lol

no,

pray. learn how to connect with Jesus.

MOVE ON!!!